It could be my personality that i care for and good to people. Especially my friends and even strangers at time. When they have emotional problems, i will be there to help or be a listening ear. I worrid about them getting into trouble and sometime buy goodies for them on festive day and medicine when they are sick.
My ex-girlfriend was quite annoyed with me for all these. Now i know this girl i really like and i often tell her about people problem and at time tell her i m sad when i cant help much or happy when i have manage to overturn the tide.
I got a feeling she is not impressed with this also. But it is just my character. I know a girl want to be and feel special and thus what i did do other make her seem no different from others. Is it wrong for me to to care for HER and other? I know i somehow treat her better. If it is wrong. how do i change it or what should i do?
2006-12-19 04:04:47 · 14 answers · asked by Fred 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good deeds never go unrewarded, I wouldn't change a thing, hang in there & eventually you'll meet someone who understands that helping others is who you are.
2006-12-19 04:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by Diamond24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing you can do is find someone who is like yourself-they love to help peopl. I mean I'm the same way. I can't stand to see people sad b/c I feel it too and sometime you really can't help. If you find the wrong girl though, she may think that you're trying to show off or something. It's not wrong for you to care for her more than you do the rest of the world. Maybe you should try volunteering somewhere so you can meet other people who like to help others and care for them.
2006-12-19 12:14:55 · answer #2 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a question ofdoing something wrong but more a question of making the wrong choice in a close companion. If this is who you are then these girls should not be jealous. Somethings to think about though might be : when you're with the "special" one do you go on and on about everybody else ? How do you treat her ? Taking a close detached look at the whole situation will give you your answer.
2006-12-19 12:13:01 · answer #3 · answered by idiot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should re think your career. If you are not a nurse or a doctor. I think you definitely have a feel for this. even social work or psychology could be your forte.
The fact that you want to help, get involved in strangers problems and feel the desire to help out.
You show the signs of a humanitarian type of personality. I really believe you have missed your calling.
I think you are looking at the wrong kind of girls for you. You need to find someone who wants to do the things you do and thinks along the same line....
You might find them in community groups, church groups,volunteer services for the needy...
If you need to further your education , find a way to do it... you are a special person and you should use all your gifts that you have.
Go and follow your path.....
2006-12-19 12:11:44 · answer #4 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am just like you a little. I don't go much out of my way like you do it seems. You may be overboard with this.
I think you need to prioritize. I have been on both sides of your story. She doesn't feel important at all. She wants to be #1. You have to decide what is important to you. If you enjoy having a relationship, then you need to not be so readily available. Especially when you are with her or if she wants to do something.
If you were single, then it wouldn't be wrong. But your partner needs special time and attention that no one else gets from you.
2006-12-19 12:12:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great to help people, I do the same, but when you are with a special person you should try to talk to them about things they like. Just try to do your good deeds, and make this girl feel special when you are with her.
2006-12-19 12:12:47 · answer #6 · answered by bluebell1us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not change, just work on the people you hold so close. If she can't deal with it, move on. I know that sounds blunt, but I know for me that is how it is. I have a side to me, a good side. And if people don't like it, oh well. I and you, got to be who we are.
2006-12-19 12:10:29 · answer #7 · answered by samaustinashlee_billiewjr 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mad you should not care as much for her any more she is problem over you and she has moved on with her life if you stop caring as much you will still have the same friends but you will also get new ones to so try and mabey she dose not like you that way any more.
2006-12-19 12:11:05 · answer #8 · answered by hay but b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u knoww.. it seems that u are just a very caring person... and she should be happy that way with u.. i reather have u be caring that a jerk.. she should be happy with the way u are. i know my bf is the same way, but a little diff.whenever we go out with friends, or just whatever, he is the one paying for everyone... and he wants too.. but newaysss.. u shouldnt be caring for others more then her though... as long as its even or less..
2006-12-19 12:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to her and just tell her how you feel about what you explained to me by the message just talk to her ahd if that dose not go anywhere then you take your next step and if not Im here to listen to you k
2006-12-19 12:17:09 · answer #10 · answered by poochie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋