You know how you see it in the movies and it's just so cute and you think this must feel really nice and I can't wait to do that and then you do it and you realise it's BORING even though you really like the person you're with and it's just disappointing to do it every time since it's just exchanging saliva, you're kissing and you think to yourself can we put on some music and you think of jawning but you can't...it's frustraiting me since I have a friend who could do the french (or normal) kissing for hours because she likes it that much but I just don't feel it!
2006-12-19 04:03:10 · 25 answers · asked by Mariella Williams 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Awww babe, don't worry!! Not everyone likes kissing for hours, i don't cause it does get boring after a while.
Well maybe you don't really like the people you have been kissing because normally when you really like someone kissing them (especially for the first time) is just so good. Or if they are a bad kisser it is not good, kinda like kissing a washing machine that is on a quick cycle.
Anyway babe, i think you just need to find a guy you enjoy kissing. Don't upset yourself over this, you will enjoy it eventually.
Good luck xxx
2006-12-19 05:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It really does matter who you are kissing, though I wouldn't worry about it. Some people are 'kissy' people and some aren't. Maybe you would rather hug, or do something else to show affection. Not all kisses have to be the open-mouthed exchange-of-saliva kind.
Kissing is like a language. There are lots of things that you can say with a kiss depending on what you put into it. A kiss needs to mean something; if you aren't really 'into' the kiss then you are sort of lying with your lips.
Kisses can mean all sorts of things like "Its good to see you" "I'm going to miss you" "I promise you something naughty later" "I want you to take me to bed right now" "I'm busy, but I still care"....
Lots of people think that kissing is more intimate than sex, so don't kiss just anyone. Any don't 'say' anything with your kisses that you don't mean. Don't kiss if there isn't any feeling. The girls in the UK will kiss people they've just met in clubs; I still don't think I could do that. Kissing is just too important.
2006-12-19 12:14:07 · answer #2 · answered by SmartBlonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well firstly, films raise your expectation of many things. Thing is kissing takes time to work on, as the person your kissing has a different technique or expectation to you. So you have to see if you can fall in sync or stop completely.
Also, French kissing is an aquired taste. Like marmite really. Needs to be worked on and sometimes, the mood isnt' right for having someone ramming their tongue straight down your throat.
Don't get frustrated with it. With each oppertunity you get, just think "I'm going to enjoy this very much" and go with it. Who knows? You may change your mind :)
2006-12-19 12:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish i could speak with experience on this one, but i can't. I think u should enjoy every kiss u get ( even if the excitement is not that great). find other ways to enhace yor relationship life by eg: watch more love fims (chick flick's if u prefer or listern to, do romantic foreplay to, & crutially kiss to, love songs.
"i find after 9pm at nite is the most mood enhanceing time of any day, to bring out a lady's emotions. Plus, I'm a man & love - romantic foreplay after 9pm i find works best for me!!!
PLEASE TRY, AS I SUGGEST. write back 2 me if u can, if u have any further questions.
2006-12-19 12:37:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT SLURP THEN
Tell ur bf to keep his mouth shut when he kisses you. Wet kisses aren't romantic at all. Also you dont need to just kiss on the mouth, how about a soft kiss on your forehead before u go sleep instead of a big wet smacker in the middle of yer face? Go for lots of little soft kisses and keep it relatively dry, not the big slurper!
down with the SNOG!!!!
Happy xmas
2006-12-19 12:11:07 · answer #5 · answered by wragster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well kissing is actually very unhygenic infact it is more hygenic to kiss a dog than a human so maybe its not such a bad thing that you dont like doing it.
2006-12-19 12:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mariella, get your head out of the clouds, girl, and don't live your life like it's one big Hollywood movie, because believe it or not, movies ain't real, they are just pure fantasy: nothing more, nothing less. From what you tell me about your experience of kissing so far, it seems to tell me two things. One, your boyfriend is not as experienced as he thinks he is, and two, that you are in danger of rushing headlong into a relationship that maybe you're not ready for. You're a young girl still, you have your whole life ahead of you: you don't need to get romantically involved as soon as you're out of the school gates. There is far more to life than that. Take your time and learn to enjoy Life before you do something daft and Life kicks you in the butt in the shape of an unexpected or unwanted child in 9 months time.
Just because this other girl likes French kissing and can do it for hours and hours doesn't mean that you can do the same as her. We might be the same species, but we are all unique, and have different ways of doing things and respond to stimuli in different ways. If we were all the same, Life would be soooo boring! So don't look at this other girl and think that you HAVE to do it the same way in order to get the fulfilment you are searching for, or think that because you can't get the same pleasure from it as she does, there is something wrong with you.
Also, if you don't like the way your boyfriend is kissing you, tell him about it and why you're not enjoying it and tell him how you would like him to kiss you. If he is serious about you and wants you to have pleasure as well as himself, then he will listen to what you have to say. There is far more to courting a girl than playing tennis with her tonsils, you know. Maybe he needs to stroke other parts of your body while he's kissing you? Where do you like to be touched? If you know, tell your boyfriend where to touch you and how to touch you while he's kissing you. If you don't know, experiment and find out when you're on your own in bed at night – that is what masturbation is for. We are told by those self-righteous morons in the bible-bashers brigade that masturbation is somehow something dirty; it is not. It is a perfectly natural way of finding out about your body's erogenous zones and what excites you sexually.
Maybe you might like him to kiss you in places other than on your lips? What about light little kisses on your cheeks, your nose, your eyelids, your forehead, your neck and shoulders? Tell him where and how you want to be kissed. You take control and tell him what you like; if you are the prize he wants, Mariella, he will listen to you. If he doesn't want to listen to you because he is only interested in getting his own kicks, then sadly, he is not the right guy for you and you should tell him to get his kicks elsewhere and go and find a nice guy who will treat you like the lady you are.
I hope you have found this enlightening, Mariella. Good luck, and find happiness soon.
2006-12-19 13:28:11 · answer #7 · answered by colliedug111060 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Than tell the person your dating the truth. Explain to them that you like them, but kissing isn't the way you want to show it. People have different ways of expressing love. His could be fysical touch (kissing) but yours could be talking or something else. Just explain it to him.
2006-12-19 12:09:51 · answer #8 · answered by anyonomous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like it, you haven't had true feelings for the person you're kissing.
When you kiss someone you were dared to, someone you like it's way different than someone you love.
2006-12-19 12:05:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know kissing is boring sex isnt much better just go throught the motions to make your partner happy or possibly become a nun
2006-12-19 12:08:44 · answer #10 · answered by Aubrey F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋