I have been engaged for 2 and the half years with a military guy, and we have been going through a lot changes in the last few months like argugements and name calling, I told him that it is over for good and he said fine as long as I am happy that's all that matter. I am wondering is all of this happing because he cheating or just want the relationship to be over or what, what should I do in this case.
2006-12-19 03:53:31 · 15 answers · asked by wenwen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sometimes it can be hard having a long distance relationship. and if he's stressed he may be taking it out on you. however you should talk to him.
2006-12-19 04:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by ILOVEMYKIDS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he is cheating on you. He is probably going through a lot of changes as well and doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore. So him telling you that it being over is fine as long as you are happy, is just an easy way out without there being a big confrontation.
2006-12-19 03:56:34 · answer #2 · answered by collegeguy88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he actually just wants you to be happy. What are the reasons that you have been fighting so much? You are the one that wanted it to be over so really why are you worried about it. Did you not mean it when you said it? What you should do is exactly what you had decided when you told him it was over. Move on. In time if things work out maybe the 2 of you could start over someday. Take the time you need to figure out what you really want.
2006-12-19 04:01:45 · answer #3 · answered by Joey R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him and he loves you hang in there, both of you need to think of the other person instead of one's self. Otherwise you are with a very selfish person, which I think is the problem. He seems to be more concerned about himself than you. Seems like he is growing away from you. You must get the 2 of you to communicate the truth, for it is true what the Bible say's, Truth shall set you FREE. Communication, & totally honesty are 2 key ingrediants to a happy marriage. Remember if this is not the one the world will not stop. Life goes on within you and without you, to Quote John Lennon. Good Luck & God Bless.
2006-12-19 04:09:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not saying that he is cheating, but when a person has found someone else closer to them or more convient for their situation they will absoultely find it much easier to let go of you!!! but i think you should talk to him tell him how you truly feel, let him know that you love him, and want to stay in a relationship with him. See where that goes from there.
2006-12-19 03:58:21 · answer #5 · answered by tysexy25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him. It doesn't sound as if he treats you even descently. To find out if he's cheating on you, do some research. Look for clues, like if he makes any mysterious phone calls that he doesn't want you to hear or if he goes away on any long weekend trips. hope this helps!
2006-12-19 03:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by 77684 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love him, you'd work it out.
if you really want him gone and don't wanna deal with the drama, then you'd leave him too and be happy that you don't have to worry about that.
and besides, you're not married yet.
i think that he's not acting like a man, so why is he in the military in the first place. just great. *sighs* the fate of our country is in your husbands hands. that's not very reassuring.
2006-12-19 03:55:25 · answer #7 · answered by ** i Am hiS giRL ** 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it's over for good, the best thing to do is stop thinking about his reasons for it and move on. Just stop focusing on him and make plans for the new year that set you on a different path.
2006-12-19 03:56:44 · answer #8 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont sound like much of a man to me.Name Calling??selfishness..try finding a Real man...
2006-12-19 03:57:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is stressed and worried about you in the future if something was to take his life...... He may be trying to protect you from what he may feel is his fate. sounds like a cry for help.
2006-12-19 03:56:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋