I am getting married for the second time, my fiancee the first. Who typically pays for the 2nd wedding? It is customary to have a wedding shower?
2006-12-19 03:44:40 · 15 answers · asked by triathlon1979 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
YOU pay for the wedding, him and his parents pay for the reception.(at least thats how tradition works) You can have a shower if you want.
2006-12-19 03:51:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This wedding is a bigger deal for his family than for yours even if it is the biggest deal for you. You pay for the wedding, his family hosts the bridal dinner or rehearsal dinner (whatever you want to call it) and your friends should throw you a couple's shower.
I was in the same position. Second marriage for me, first for my husband. My husband and I decided to elope to Las Vegas.
His entire family came along with us, cousins and aunts and our friends from all over the country went with us or met us there and we all had a great time. Our reception lasted a week and it was a time we all spent bonding in a way that we wouldn't have had we held a formal or even an informal wedding at home. There would have been too much stress. My future sisters in law threw me a shower before and threw a reception at home the week after.
My parents flew in for the ceremony and flew out after hosting the wedding dinner. See the difference a second marriage makes in a bride's family?
2006-12-19 11:58:35 · answer #2 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pay for the wedding. Your fiance can help, too. Parents are not obligated to pay for second weddings.
Don't suggest to anyone to give you a shower. Tacky. You probably have the stuff you need. Besides, some people will want to give you gifts anyway. (Be sure you write the thank you notes for whatever you get!)
2006-12-19 13:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a second wedding, I think you and your fiance will have to pay for this... and NO you shouldn't have a bridal shower.... The pursose of a shower to get help out a new couple who doesn't have things, Since you were married before, I am sure you ahve everything you need. Your guests will probably just give you money but NO you shouldn't have another shower, its kinda tacky.
2006-12-19 12:13:01 · answer #4 · answered by totallylovableandinlove 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You both should pay for the wedding, if someone wants to help that's fine, but don't expect anything. and having a wedding shower is ok, you may not get alot, but you can still have fun!
2006-12-19 12:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by jenandybell03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you should be paying for your own wedding. No shower since it is your second wedding.
2006-12-19 14:20:49 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the bride and groom pay for the 2nd marriage - if his parents offer to help - thats fine.
So for the shower - my daughter was married for the second time and we had a "fun" type shower - everyone brought funny, cute or sexy gifts - nothing off of a "registry" (which by the way, she didn't have!)
2006-12-19 13:16:18 · answer #7 · answered by wild_orchid_tx36 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you as a couple should pay for the wedding. if people want to help pay for it then you should be grateful.
as for the shower well i guess it is kinda like a baby shower - you are only suppose to have one no matter how many babies(weddings) you have.
2006-12-19 12:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by Jenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pay for it yourselves. If people want to offer help, that's great. But its very, very rude of you to ask, especially your family (they already paid for one!). It is not customary to have a traditional bridal shower, the kind where the women give you presents. It would be okay to have a couples shower, though, where both me and women come (usually just the women come) to give you AND your fiance gifts.
2006-12-19 11:48:32 · answer #9 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you guys should pay for it. I am getting married soon and this is his second wedding. we are having a wedding at our fave camping spot. and having everyone bring their own drinks and what ever else they want. As for the bridal shower i dont see why you cant have one. we went through some thing simmular when i had my baby we were not sure if i still go one because this was his second child. so go for it.
2006-12-19 14:31:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋