My boyfriend cheated on me! He spent 6 hours on the phone with me last night apoligizing to me and crying and telling me that He wanted me back and telling me everything that he would do for me if he could only just see me again. I am not dating him again and I told him that I am not going to be dating for a while but I told him that I will come to his house to see him as friends! Was that the right thing to do?
2006-12-19 03:32:03 · 55 answers · asked by Shelly Belly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes and no. he needs to relize that he messed up and if he truly loves u he will stay by himself and still try to get back with u in that case give him another chance god gave u chance after chance so dont drag others down the one time he messed up but dont let him to comntinue this way
2006-12-19 03:36:09 · answer #1 · answered by babyblue1512000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats probably the worst thing you could've done ...bc even tho you seem to have made it clear and bluntly stated that your done dating him and dating for awhile....going to his house as a friend may just aswell be misleading....and well it may put you in a position you didnt intend to be in... so if you really have made your dicision adn are truely done with the relationship then it might just be better to let him know that you are gonna need some time to really get over all that and well maybe if in a couple of months he wants to try being friends then your willing to do that....this way things will be more comfortable for you and mixed feelings about what you recently had with him and what you previously share as friends doesnt get all bundled and in the way of the main goal which is friends ;)
"give it some time"
Good Luck
2006-12-19 03:42:28 · answer #2 · answered by shy_chick4you 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a proverb, "Think twice before you act."
So you make sure certain things when u are abt to take imp decisions.
1. Are you sure you have been cheated, or its just your preception.
2. Is he cheating you often and asking sorry every time and repeating things again..
3. Do you think that he has been really good to you many times than you have expected?
If the answer for the 3 question is yes, y dont you give a second thought before rejecting him.
But whatever it is, I apreciate the way you handled your Boyfriend. Be a good friend of him even if he has cheated you. Bcoz you loved him once. And that's the best way to make him realize his fault.
2006-12-19 03:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by dhanesh_y2k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you say that you don't want to be with him and date him, but just be friends. But from experience, it won't work. You will end up going over there and he will cry and tell you he is sorry and everything you have already heard. And you will be resistent at first and then give in and end up gettting back with him. The best thing is to give it time before you start seeing him again and hanging out.
2006-12-19 03:35:57 · answer #4 · answered by collegeguy88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very difficult to be "friends" with someone that you have been intimate with. Especially so soon after the break-up. If you go over there, you risk being overcome with old emotions and possibly doing or saying something that you regret. Remember, your boyfriend knows what makes you tick, the way to your heart and he will pull out all the stops in order to get you back.
This is not the real him. He is in desparation mode.
Don't go over there. If you feel you must meet him, do it in a public place.
2006-12-19 03:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by Morty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not ever go back to him. trust me. I had one that cheated on me... did exactly what yours did by apologizing... then did it again, and again, and again. And apologized every time. One day I met another guy behind his back... then left him for this guy and now I am married to the new guy... and the loser... is alone.. ahahaha. but yeah.. leave him.. or pay him back... cause I hate those kind of guys. A lot... or beat the crap out of the girl... that could help lol :-)
P.S- But seriously, don't go back to him, they never learn. They just think you'll always forgive and will do it again.
2006-12-19 03:35:21 · answer #6 · answered by It's a secret... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no!!! doing that would mean you forgive him, even if you did break up with him... you should cut him out of your life! how will you be able to continue your life without that guy and date other guys if you still see this guy as a friend?? tell him that if he really loved you, cheating on you would've been the last thing he would've done which he obviously did not do! and never forget this: once a cheater, always a cheater...
2006-12-19 03:38:13 · answer #7 · answered by Lux 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's going to be tough, just keeping it as friends, with all the history between you. As long as you try to be friends with him, he's going to interpret that as there being a chance that you might get back together.
Unless you can forgive what he did, and NEVER throw it up in his face again, which would take A LOT of understanding on your part, you're going to have a difficult time being around him, as friends or otherwise.
2006-12-19 03:36:57 · answer #8 · answered by Humberto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you stay with him is your choice, since you are the closest to the problem.....immaturity. He hasn't gotten out of his "exploring" phase. A guy that is mature in a relationship is infatuated with the one person that he holds dear. Your ex boyfriend has learned a lesson that may mature him a little, but are you willing to stick around for the whole process? It could happen again. Some guys never grow up. The choice is yours to make.
2006-12-19 04:13:26 · answer #9 · answered by mojonah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nooooooooo! now U can fall under the spell of love that U once had it is not to say U R weak or that U can't help yo self but when U love somone the feelins R always there no matter how bad U hurt the feelins remain being aroud someone U love resparks those feelings of love that U once or still have and thats not good if he has already direspected U by bein unfaithful if he would go dat far this time wat else would he do wat else has he done be smart don't let ya heart play a # on U do wat U know was right from the beginin don't deal wid him defently don't go see him not the ting to do
2006-12-19 03:38:35 · answer #10 · answered by Real Chilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that, that is a very bad idea never lead your ex on if he done you wrong. He knows that if he can get you to see him that everything will eventually fall right into place for him. So my advice to you don't do it it's a trick and then the laugh is going be on you, what I mean is he is going now know that if he cheats on you that he can get away with it because you are easy going with him.
2006-12-19 03:39:29 · answer #11 · answered by wenwen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋