My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 rocky years. I am 29 and he is 28. I have been in a few "long term relationships", most of which I ended because of infidelity or just stagnation in the relationship. Arguing has never really been my thing. Fighting and confrontation are usually last resorts, however with this relationship there is always an argument, and always it is said to be my fault. Most of our arguments center around him having people over at the house. (The house is one that has been put in my hands by my family, paid off etc). He had folks in one of the unoccupied bedrooms, and didn't have the common decency to let me know what was going on. Thus an argument started. I have never lived with anyone before, but this back and forth is really for the birds. How can it be that I have never had any of these problems with anyone else, but constantly have them with him? What is a better way to have my concerns heard?
2006-12-19 03:27:17 · 6 answers · asked by prettydebutante 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sweetie, from your own words, he is basically using you for all you have. you are allowing him to treat you this way, and he in turns blame you to keep you from seeing his fault in situations. you know what he is doing and how he is doing things is not right. and maybe he feels you want him to treat you like that because he is still there. but you are smarter than that, you know what you need to do. and if you have had other relationships, and this has never happened, guess what its not you then!
god bless, and i hope you make the right decision. you deserve better
2006-12-19 03:34:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use some of the energy you use to argue and focus it toward your relationship. Be nice and try not to say words that hurt and try real hard not to think negative. Give in you will find that if you go a whole day without an arguement you will have hours of time for exhausting sex and mind rocking orgasms! Try it! It works for me!
2006-12-19 11:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by Lionel S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's using you. The situation is not worth the headache its bringing you. Get rid of him, and his folks...and change the locks!
2006-12-19 11:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by ndngrlz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you need to know when he is going to have people over. its your house, not his. tell him that you both need to agree when people can or can not come over!
2006-12-19 11:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by ~sasha~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't act confused. Just look into his eyes . . . .
2006-12-19 11:32:07 · answer #5 · answered by Phillip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its him not you tell him to change or pack his crap
2006-12-19 11:31:37 · answer #6 · answered by Aubrey F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋