I have been engaged for 2 and the half years with this guy that's in the military, and we have been going through a lot of problems in the last few months like calling each other names and so on like that it has been getting really out of hand. So just last week I told him that the relationship is over for good and I am going back home and he said that he is cool with that what ever make me and my son happy, but soon as I told him he went right a way and book me and my son's tickets, it seems to me that he want me and my son gone. But what I am really thinking that is he cheating on me or is he not.
2006-12-19 03:18:01 · 7 answers · asked by wenwen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know if he's cheating or not but chances are if someone truly loves you it's not so easy to dismiss you. So something is going on with him maybe he's under alot of pressure and need time to realize what's important to him. Good Luck!
2006-12-19 03:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be cheating, he might not be. There's not enough information to tell, and his apparent relief at the prospect of getting out does NOT, necessarily, mean that he is being unfaithful.
His immediate ticket purchase means one of two things: either (a) he was just angry and acting hastily, or (b) he is relieved that you have finally gotten the message that he's been too afraid to tell you (i.e., that he wants to break it off). Hate to break the bad news to you, but my money is on "(b)."
Lots of otherwise strong men have an irrational fear of being "the bad guy" in the breakup. Furthermore, how a couple fights is a great indicator of how successful they will be, and if your arguments have degenerated into name-calling, that's a very bad sign. Finally, a two-and-a-half-year engagement is a definite indicator that things aren't working. If he was really serious about the long term, he would have gone through with the marriage already.
My advice: take him up on his offer, and go home. If you are out of the picture, he'll see what life is like without you. He might miss you after a couple of weeks/months, and call and beg you to come back, or . . . he might not. Either way, you both will have figured out what you want, and life is too short to waste time in a dead-end relationship.
2006-12-19 03:32:19 · answer #2 · answered by Humberto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither of you are acting in a way that's healthy for your son. If this man really wanted to marry you, he would have done it a long time ago. If he is cheating on you, then thankfully you aren't married in this instance and you can move on. Some counseling might not be a bad thing for you and for your son. You deserve to love yourself enough to respect yourself and expect to be treated respectfully by others. If you like the way he is treating you right now, then definitely stay in the relationship and just know this is how it will always be and your OK with that. BUT if don't like it, it's not going to get any better. You can't change him, he has to want to change himself, so take the tickets and get away quickly. I wish you and your son the best.
2006-12-19 03:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance went into the army as soon as he did that we started experiencing the same problem then all the sudden I found out hte only reason he was acting like this was because of 2 thinks
1. he could not stand to be at a distants
2. he didn't want to be with me and was cheating on an army girl with me
so you make your own decisions I can't do it for you but I hope my advice helps you
2006-12-19 03:24:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I would suggest that you follow your gut feelings on this one... but also remember that the fighting is not good for you or your son.
2006-12-19 03:21:46 · answer #5 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me that he called your bluff. Apologise - whether or not you were the one to start it - otherwise accept the tickets....
2006-12-19 03:26:15 · answer #6 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hes a jerk. you dont need him. its time to make a new life for you and your son. and raise him to not be like his jerky father.
2006-12-19 03:22:34 · answer #7 · answered by Jmkisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋