One of the men is my best friend of many years (we are trying on a relationship) the other man is my best friend's best friend.
2006-12-19 03:14:17 · 60 answers · asked by knihappy3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it is. You may discover you actually love one in a different way. I have loved two at the same time and it was so hard figuring out what to do. It doesn't mean you are acting on it or that you are deceiving them. It's better to own your feelings than try to hide them out of fear that you will be called names. Try to deal with how you feel and figure out which is the right thing to do. People here should relax!
2006-12-19 03:16:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm in what sounds like the EXACT same situation. This girl I've known for years, one of my best friends, and I have been seeing each other more recently. However, my best friend's friend (who has the same name as the first girl) and I have been seeing each other too.
So what did I do? I realized that it was unfair to both of them and said that we should stop our messing around because I don't want them to get hurt in the end. At least one of them is prepared for a relationship and I can tell you I am not at all.
If you can't focus on one, then you are not ready for commitment and you may end up becoming a shitty girlfriend. I suggest you back off a little and get some time to think about the situation as I have.
Good luck, just don't slut it up - keep your self respect. There's nothing sexier than a sexy lady with class :)
By the way, since we're both technically single, what's happenin'? (lol jokes, good luck)
2006-12-19 03:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by jons_plan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. But I suggest to keep it as is. Just friends with the best friend's best friend. You don't want to end up on your wedding day with the best friend's best friend being the best man and you can't look your best friend in the eye when you get to the altar because you been having a "secret lover" relationship with the best friend's best friend.
Then at the reception your new husband's best friend gets up to make a toast and tells "EVERYONE" how much he love you and how it should have been him you married to. Oh, and by the way he mentions that you are pregnant and it may be his child.
What now?
Don't cross that line, okay? Try that one relationship. If it works, then great! If not, don't even think of going to the best friend's best friend.
2006-12-19 03:20:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are probably experiencing is not love....at least not love for BOTH men. Sometimes situational circumstances gives some relationships and feelings the appearance of love, but I am sure if you really sat down and think about what you are doing, you will find that one of them carries more weight in your heart.
One thing I strongly suggest you NOT do, is play games with the both of them...trust me...in the end you will be the one left without either. Just be careful is all I am saying. Its not fair to juggle people's emotions...no one deserves that, especially from someone that claims to "care" so much. Sit back, take some mental and emotional inventory and make a well thought decision.
Good Luck!! And always remember, when you play with fire, you get burned.
2006-12-19 03:19:27 · answer #4 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know of your limitiation but my heart and my love know no boundries and I can love as many people as I wanted ad infinitum. The problem for me would be time, I can only be with, support, care for and give my devoted time to so many people. Now love is love, so how can a mother love her mother, her children and her husband and possibly siblings but not have enough love for just 2 men or vis versa. Youll undoubtedly say those are different, and mayhaps for you they are but when I strip away all the other emotions love just feels like love to me no matter who its directed at. Now I have an entirely different relationship and compiliation of feeligns for my wife then I do for my sister, mother or close lady freinds. So to answer an indirect question for if I could be devoted as a husband to two woman, well that comes down alot to how much needs those woman have. Some woman dont want or need thier man 24/7, and thus leave him plenty of room for other expressions of his time, and if he chose that time to be emotionally close and supportive to another person, man or woman, I dont see that as any worse then spending teh same time drooling at the T.V. Undoubtedly many will disagree. Though this again all depends on the maturity, honesty and intentions of all involved.
2016-05-23 07:24:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YIKES you are playing with fire. Figure out how you feel and what you really want before you go ANY FURTHER with either of these men. Really, it will save everyone a whole lot of hurt in the long run. I suppose it is possible but you really should not pursue both under ANY circumstances. Even if you are upfront and honest with them about seeing both guys, it would probably ruin their friendship and you'd be constantly balancing the two guys. That's kind of mean especially if they are best friends. Stand back, make a choice, and go with that choice. (sounds like you chose already.) Make peace with your feelings with the other guy but don't don't don't act on them, cheaters are scum really. Don't become one.
2006-12-19 03:33:09 · answer #6 · answered by Olivia_Raye 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The love you are feeling is not like being in love with someone you want to spend your life with. There is different types of loves. Oh and what you're doing also is going to ruin your best friend and his friend relationship. Why would you want that to happen. Take other peoples feelings in mind also. Soon they'll find out and you wont have no love from them.
2006-12-19 03:26:37 · answer #7 · answered by ms_socali 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very possible. People are in love with a lot of people at the same time all the time. There is a lot of room in your heart and its not just for one person. The more you get to know them the more you will fall in love with one or the other..it might take time though
2006-12-19 03:16:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like a 3 some? Yeah, it's possible to love many people at the same time...not sexually, though. Love, just like hate and even lust, is a common reflex reaction to people you're interested in or not. What's the big deal with women and *love* anyway?
2006-12-19 03:19:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible to have feelings for two men sure. It's also extremely stupid and something you should avoid and walk away from. You could cause a lot of pain and ruin their friendship. Do not do that.
Plus, I'd be willing to bet you're not truly in love with either of them. How can you truly love someone when your clouded by feelings for another?
2006-12-19 03:20:09 · answer #10 · answered by DiRTy D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋