please help me with my relationship!! my boyfriend want to marrying when i'm 18 right now i'm 16 well.. my birthday in 2 months (2-22), he's 20. he want to marrying with me.. i don't know is he right for me or what?? should i go ahead and marrying him??
2006-12-19 03:11:15 · 24 answers · asked by Smiley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't marry...You may feel as if you are almost an adult but the next 10 years will be so life changing for you. Besides If you were my daughter I would advise you to Develop your abilities and grow as a person instead. There are 2 important reasons for doing that. #1 It allows you to broaden your persona and define yourself in many different contexts so when you do make a choice you will feel more secure you are making the right one because you have explored what type of women you are. #2 It's an important survival strategy. Being able to provide for yourself independently. Will give you the self-confidence to take a chance on someone, and if he turns out to be a lemon you won't feel trapped for economic reasons. Whatever you decide don't forget to seek those family members you admire love & trust. Best of luck with all your choices...
2006-12-19 03:20:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't because if you already have doubts honey that's a for sure hint that it's not right. You have all your life to choose the right man for you and your only 16 what's your rush? You don't let somebody make a big choice like that for you because marriage is a serious step and you need to be sure this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with for better or worst so take a few steps back and wake up because you haven't even had a chance to experience life yet so slow down and enjoy your young life and don't try to grow up too fast. Good Luck!
2006-12-19 11:19:02 · answer #2 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young. You have so much opportunity ahead of you. Do not get married yet.
You must be strong enough to say no if you do not feel it in your gut. Don't just say yes you will get married because you think you have to.
If he truly loves you, he'll understand and wait it out. You should go to school first before you even consider getting married.
Let me tell you something, if you think to yourself that it MIGHT work out... MIGHT is a big NO. Might is a big chance. Trust your instincts if they're telling you that it may not be a good idea.
Just wait until you are a little older, and WISER, and more mature (I know that's a crappy thing to hear). Wait until you are wise, and 100000% SURE that it's a good idea. If he's going to be a GOOD husband, he'll understand.
One more thing: TRUST your instincts, BECAUSE THAT'S WHY YOU HAVE THEM.
2006-12-19 11:16:09 · answer #3 · answered by jons_plan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who recently got married, I have to say wait. I waited until I was 32 to get married and I got an education, travelled internationally, and lived life to the fullest.
If I would have married the choices I had back then, I would have never found my lovely wife tracy.
Take some time and live your life, if he is the "right" one he will support you and wait for you. You have the rest of your life to have kids and get married, now is the time to live YOUR dreams.
2006-12-19 11:16:25 · answer #4 · answered by infobrokernate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your 16, and he's 20. don't be that girl. You have so much stuff that you need to do in your life before you get married. I hate to say this, but he is taking away the best years of your life. I would step away for awhile and date, and do whatever you want. If he loves you then he will understand. and he is young himself, He thinks that he can't do any better then you and wants to keep you for his own. In a way its kind of controlling. It may hurt to tell him that, but again realize that marriage is forever, and if your not sure and asking this question, then your NOT ready for that type of commitment.
2006-12-19 11:15:59 · answer #5 · answered by Tyler C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Wait until you are ready. Being 20 and pushing marriage on a younger woman either means he is insecure or has control issues, neither which is good for a lasting relationship, unless you think you will enjoy being some man's puppet for the rest of your life.
If he loves you, he will wait until you are settled and ready for that type of commitment, which may not be until you are 22 and out of college.
2006-12-19 11:15:29 · answer #6 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have doubts about it naw don't marry him. But what you'll might do is get engaged and see what happens before marrying. Becasue what if it doesn't work out, better to wait and have no doubts than getting a divorce in a couple of years. Or just live together and get to know each other beofre getting married.
2006-12-19 11:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not marry him you are both to young and you have your whole life's a head of you. Marriage is a BIG commitment, and you don't want that right now. Enjoy life while you can.
2006-12-19 11:15:22 · answer #8 · answered by cinpooh44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot will happen between now and the time you're 18. Even 18 is too young. Your education is the number one thing you should be worried about now.
2006-12-19 11:13:53 · answer #9 · answered by Claire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by the time you turn 18 either you are he will have a fight and split up. Most early relationships dont last and about half of all marriages fail in the first 7 years.
2006-12-19 11:17:25 · answer #10 · answered by R R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋