Please help. The other night me and my friend got drunk together as we were getting ready to go out. She tried on a belt n i told her it didn't really go with her outfit so she threw it on the bed and carried on gettin ready. She lay down on the bed for a minute snd said "how far do you dare me?" while she was pulling itround her neck. All her face went red and I tried to pull it off her and stop her.
After that I couldn't look at her or speak at her, I was just horrified.
She then started telling me she has no control over her life and this is the one thing she has control over.
She started crying and collapsed in tears, I hugged her and she whispered "promise me you wont leave me" and i promised her i wouldnt.
the next day I tried talkin 2 her about it but she won't let me in close enough, even though I want to help her and be there for her.
I know most of you will say "just make sure she knows u are there for her, try ot talk to her" but I have and it honestly doesnt work.
2006-12-19 03:06:48 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well Being a good friend is the most important factor , but sometimes being a good friend isnt always going to be seen as being a good friend...so she doesnt want to talk about it with you anymore...which yea would be a logical thing to do...but the most IMPORTANT and Needed thing to do here is talk to someone who can help her and will help her whether she is willing or not...This may put a hold on your friendship for a while but when she gets the help she needs and is able to get threw all that she will hopefully thank you... for you to want to be the only one to hold her hand or walk her threw it especially with resistants is alot to hold on one persons shoulders especially for someone who just wants to help you know. Even thought letting her know y ou will always be there bc you do care is probably a good idea its not the only thing you should consider.....
Good Luck
2006-12-19 03:19:39 · answer #1 · answered by shy_chick4you 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As well intended as any advice, comfort or consolation you have given her mat be, you do not have the expertise that a seasoned professional would have. Depending on the age of your friend you can do one of several things. If she is underage and living at home I would strongly suggest you told her parents about the situation. even though they may be part of the cause it is always good to get people close to her involved in the process of rehabilitation. If she is an adult, suggest that the best course of action would be to seek the aid of a professional in the field of psychology or psychiatry. don't depress, or confuse yourself or her by trying to figure out the cause of her affliction. Do lend her the support she needs until she looks for help but do not become a crutch! She needs to come out of this by her own accord. Be assertive but gentle. Act quickly because a situation like this can become volatile at any moment. The reason or reasons why she feels this way may be simple but only a professional can truly help.
God bless and good luck!
2006-12-19 03:24:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure the age of this person, but sounds to me like she needs counseling at a higher level. Maybe a visit to her physician would be good, maybe she is going through depression, 73% of the US population has problems with depression on some level. Are their parents/Minister/ someone that is closer to her that she trusts more, that she would confide in? Suicidal tendancies are not good, You have to reach her somehow do now give up, get help for your friend somehow or she may not be around very long.
2006-12-19 03:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by Havnoclue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont see it working now. things have to sink in to her. since she is depressed it will take longer. but hopefully you have a strong good friendship and you wont snap at her a somepoint. dont force her to talk to you or open up and anything like that. she do what she needs to at her own pace. honestly all you can do it let her know you are there for her. but if she tries anything like that again tell her parents and let her know you are. it could be serious enough that she needs help. but always let her know what you are doing. dont ever just tell her parents let her know whats going on to. things go so much smoother then.
2006-12-19 03:11:31 · answer #4 · answered by .......... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems to be a bit self destructive to me. I would say get her help, or tell someone that she is doing this. True you can be there for her, but you don't know how to handle a situation like this. Be her friend but get her some help. This is in the clinical realm of depression and a cry for help.
2006-12-19 03:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by Tyler C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very serious and she needs counseling. I had a friend who accidentally died from this a couple of months ago. She was beautiful, talented and bright. So many people loved her and now she's gone.
Go to the counselor with her to make sure that she tells them what she's doing.
2006-12-19 03:10:59 · answer #6 · answered by Claire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her life. You can't control what other people do or think. Just don't get to emotionally attached to someone this derranged. Apparently she may do something horrible and you could be devestated. Keep your distance and let her know that you're not bothered by her wicked attempts for attention.
2006-12-19 03:11:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you knoe sometimes people like that just want attention...so you knoe dont push her to talk about it...just let her be when she is ready she come back around trust me but yea stay there for her and if this situation ever occurs again then i would highly suggest goin in for perfessional help and let her know ill go with u im ur support team...and that will probably help her go i mean i have been through this with my sister and wen i went it broke my heart becuz i learned things about her i thought i already knew
2006-12-19 03:10:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get help. Proffessional help. She is not letting you in because that is her defensive wall. Ask around and find a good therapist for her before it is to late.
2006-12-19 03:10:00 · answer #9 · answered by RayCATNG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her parents what happened.
That is a serious disorder of some kind, I'm sure. She needs professional help.
2006-12-19 03:11:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋