So I attracted the girl, courted the girl, loved the girl, made love to the girl, teased the girl, didnt always give her what she wanted, randomized things but now it seems after 5 months that things are getting to routine. I love her and want to be with her very much but her interests seems to fade in and out like she gets bored with me. We do see each other a lot and talk a lot almost like we are married but I cant stand to be away from her and the friends she used to have are all guys and all they want is a piece. We go out once in a great while, she doesnt drink very much, will not play pool, despises bowling but tells me she will do whatever I want until it comes time to do it. I try to lead but then she tries to take the lead by saying nevermind Im going to bed, or go without me or what have you. It seems like she is trying to take my power as a man away and when I try to do the same thing by saying Im tired Im going to bed or go without me she is ok with it which defeats my plan
2006-12-19 02:45:23 · 5 answers · asked by 1authority 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a lesson you need to learn very early in relationships...the girl is always in control. Every guy likes to say they aren't whipped, but there isn't a single couple I know where it isn't obvious that the girl, for the most part, is calling the shots. So, if you like her and can't stand to be without her, suck up some of your pride and relinquish your "man" power. Now, if she is just crazy and makes you miserable, then that's a different story, but since it doesn't sound that way, I'd say you better just get used to the girl wearing the pants when it comes to a lot of decisions in your life.
2006-12-19 02:55:15 · answer #1 · answered by boger82 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her you are quite upset. You have all these feelings for her and have tried to figure it out. Tell her you aren't asking her for "help" but if she wants this to work SHE is going to have to contribute to the relationship. You are there and she needs to be also. What does she want?
It seems that either: 1. She is bored and wants something to change somehow but not saying it. 2. Is bored and wants out but doesn't know how. Or 3. Has a master plan for making you what she wants you to be (very bad for you). The above statements will help you find out which without CAUSING her to want out. Good luck.
2006-12-19 03:00:43 · answer #2 · answered by deeply interested 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bail out, your in a no win deal there. Read between the lines there kid. Her signals are mixed, immature and like a spoiled kid in nature. Get yourself a real woman who is mature and ready for a real commitmint.
2006-12-19 02:50:17 · answer #3 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Time to comboy up and move on....she is immature or trying to play you...time to replace your sidekick!
2006-12-19 04:10:35 · answer #4 · answered by Mikey ~ The Defender of Myrth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is that you're boring.
2006-12-19 02:49:26 · answer #5 · answered by rastus7742 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋