I am a virgin and my boyfriend and I have decided to have sex but I just get so nervous and chicken out. But its not like I dont want to do it cuz I know im ready but I just dont want to be horrible at it. How can I get over my fears and just do it. I just dont know how to do it.
2006-12-19 02:34:19 · 18 answers · asked by Sexy Blonde 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just start off giving him handjobs... and after time, when you get comfortable with that, try giving him a bIowjob... and just work your way up from there. you have to crawl before you can walk. Don't let him force you into doing anything you're not comfortable with. If he won't settle for a handjob or whatever you're willing to do then he can leave. Chances are very good that if you tell him all you want to do is stroke him or blow him that he will accept that.
As far as not knowing how to do it... porn is an excellent teacher, I suggest you watch some.
2006-12-19 02:36:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, firstly you def. need to make sure that this is the guy that you want to do this with. Let me tell you that I regret the first guy I did that with. So be sure.
If you are sure, it will come naturally. I know with the guy I am with now, I knew he had a lot more experience than I did so I was def. nervous. But after he started kissing me I kind of just fell into it. and it was wonderful. Now i we do it all the time. 3 & 4 times a day. However, let me warn you that it will hurt your first time. But if it's not satisfactory for you, don't think it was because you were horrible, it could be him.
Just make out and take things slow, the rest will happen when it's meant to happen. If you love him, you wont be soooo chicken about it, because it will happen.
Good luck, let me know how things go.
2006-12-19 10:43:07 · answer #2 · answered by Fresca Jesca 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't you worry girl... just let it all out, no need to be nervous. your Boyfriend loves you so there is no need to be nervous about anything. But I know what you mean because I was a virgin once and I felt the same thing, I was nervous and I was afraid that I might not satisfy her and etc.. The best thing to do to overcome your nervousness is to talk and communicate with your Boyfriend and just be open with him as far as you being nervous and I'm sure that he will understand you and you will feel alot better afterwards. Just be yoursef and dont worry because if you worry too much about it then you might not have fun with it.. so just let yourself all out and enjoy it and believe it or not it will get better and better as time goes on.
2006-12-19 10:42:34 · answer #3 · answered by supersteveee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your just not ready. First of all how old are you? should you be thinking about sex or your school work? If you are old enough than you should make sure this guy is the right one for your first time. Are you in love with him, and is he ready to take on the responsibility of the consequences if you get pregnant. Also you need to think about your health, is he clean and is he safe? Sorry to put a dark spin on it, but you need to think past your hormones.
2006-12-19 10:51:21 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you maybe still nervous because you are not quite ready. Be sure this is what you really want to do, because once you give away your virginity you will never give it back! Sex can wait, there are other things you two can do until your married.
Think about it!
Good Luck!
2006-12-19 10:39:02 · answer #5 · answered by Justice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are that afraid of having sex, then no matter what you think you arnt ready. and also think of this can you picture yourself being a mom right now? cause that is something else to look at,it only takes once. I am not a nagging person. but i was a mom at 18 and although i dont regret it, had i waited just a little while i could have more for my kids then they do have. and i was on birth control with both my children, so dont count on that one. just something to think about. and remember be ready for you and no one else. for it is your body. good luck to you.
2006-12-19 10:38:26 · answer #6 · answered by stunt101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through this same thing with my boyfriend. I would want to, but I would get so nervous. The thing that would scare me the most is the pain. I love music, and music relaxes me, so we put on some music, and this helped me to focus my thoughts on how good it felt instead of the pain. My boyfriend also helped to relax me by taking things slow and talking to me softly and gently. Just focus on how much you love him. It hurt a little at first, but after the pain, it was the best feeling. Once you relax yourself, everything will be fine. The key to this being a good experience, though, is relaxing.
2006-12-19 11:37:48 · answer #7 · answered by loveangel22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it this way, there is NO WAY you would be horrible at it..
I think if its your first time, you should just take it slow and let everything flow naturally.
Cherish it and make sure this is the guy you want to lose it to, because I have heard so many regret stories from people in my life..
2006-12-19 10:36:39 · answer #8 · answered by Kain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush it.. just let it happen naturally. If you guys say "Okay Friday midnight we're gonna have sex" that's too much pressure. Just let it happen, don't script it and for god's sakes don't copy anything you see in a porno (i.e. that's all scripted so don't take your cues from those people).. that's the best way. And just be relaxed.. there's no right or wrong way. Well no, it's right if it feels good, and it's wrong when it doesn't. Good luck.
2006-12-19 10:40:23 · answer #9 · answered by supernaturaldj2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First be sure that this is really the guy that you want to lose it to... Remember your only a virgin ONCE.... Then that it slow and just get in the mood and let him take it from there... Remember it is going to hurt the first time.
2006-12-19 10:38:54 · answer #10 · answered by miss.lodge_2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋