we've lived together for two years and he is 12 years older than me. sometimes he can be emotionally and physically abusive but when he's not, he's the sweetest guy. should i try to work it out with him or leave?
2006-12-19 02:27:26 · 36 answers · asked by mia. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds as if you would be better off without him. No one should be subjected to physical abuse. Leave him, find happiness in someone closer to your own age.
Good luck.
2006-12-19 02:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you should work it out with someone that is emotionally and physical abusive sometimes and then the sweetest guy in the world. Relationships doesn't work like that. You should get a guy that loves you with all of his heart. Not a guy that wants to hit on you some of the times and then loves you to death. Because if you a few times it is going to turn into 24/7. Girl wake up and smell the coffee, you're better than that.
Mama didn't raise no fool,did she?
2006-12-19 02:35:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if he's abusive you need to get out of there he will never change, do you fight all the time, why does he get physically mad?, Is it worth it to you in your heart. Do you really want to try and fix it, and how about him? Have you tried to fix it in the past? How do it work out? If you can answer these, you no what to do! Good Luck
2006-12-19 02:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by amanda b 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say get out of it with this guy. Its one thing to yell, but if he lays a hand on you then you need to leave. If this "guy" has his stuff together then he can deal with any problem in a calm manner without taking physical action against you. No women deseves to be hit no matter how out of line they are. Hun leave, and you will realize that there are so many more better guys out there for you.
2006-12-19 02:31:13 · answer #4 · answered by Tyler C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since I dont know you, I'm going to go out on a limb and say: leave the bas&*%$. Do you actually think that low of yourself to accept any type of physical or mental abuse? If you answered yes to that question; congradulations you're set for a life time of heartache and abuse.
2006-12-19 02:33:58 · answer #5 · answered by Candy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN FORREST RUN.... is this what your Daddy would want for you? Is this what you would want for your best friend? DO NOT waste another minute. Gear yourself up for a move, quickly.
You are a wonderful woman and worth so much more than that crap abuse. This is the time of your life to focus on yourself and improve your life. Take classes at a Jr. College or begin belly dancing or anything else to make yourself love yourself more!
2006-12-19 02:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by amazedmaize 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, once it's broken it's done. It probably broke for all the right reasons. Why would you even consider staying with a guy who abuses you? Are you into being abused? If that's the case, stay with the ****** and let him have his way with you.
Move forward, not backward.
2006-12-19 02:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is very simple....if it is broke DONT fix it. We all regret when something is over, but babe it is OVER for a reason so let it go by cutting off all ties...it will hurt for a while but it will help mend your broken heart.
He need help...you can't get him that help only HE can so let go, let go and save the only person you can. YOU. Love the most important person in the world...YOU.
Visuallize, the new wonderful relationship....the way the new man treats you right, the sweet things he does for you,
2006-12-19 02:36:12 · answer #8 · answered by Lovely B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no excuse for any of those abuse, however if you are in love with him, and willing to help him,the olny way you should stay is if he agreeds to get help asap! Also be aware that can help again, so before making any decitions put in weight machine all the good things, and the bad and see what weights more; GOOD or BAD? Then make your decition!
2006-12-19 02:33:16 · answer #9 · answered by mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever heard of the cycle of violence....they are emotionally and physically abusive sometimes but when they aren't they are the sweetest guy's....my first husband was just like that.....all i can tell you is that the moments of sweetness get fewer and fewer and the times they cry and tell you they are really sorry and that they didn't mean it that they wouldn't have done it but if you had just.................I'm sure you can fill that in yourself......they get less and less......you need to get support.....you can find 1800 numbers in the yellow pages...if you need temporary housing they can help........ you need to leave...be safe......i know he may tell you he cares about you but he would never hit you push you or have called you those names if he loved you....please leave....I left...I left for me and for my children....
2006-12-19 02:36:17 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋