i wwas with this guy for about 6 and a half months he was like the guy i would do ANYTHING for and he was also my best friend wen we broke up (he broke up with me) it broke my heart and it took a long long time to get over him well now about a year later after we broke up i can say im over him but im to scared to fall for another guy well now im starting to talk to another guy and i think im falling for him but i dunno if i should cuz i dont want my heart broken again .what should i do ...try to get over my fear or hold off on dating a little while longer????
2006-12-19 02:24:36 · 6 answers · asked by Xtina12 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
better to love and lost than not to love at all.
Its a old saying but holds true.
Take your time, find a new guy. Dont rush it. If you do, you might make be in the same place 6 months down the road.
And it is true, it gets better/easier with time.
2006-12-19 02:28:07 · answer #1 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you should not bring baggage into anything new. However, people think this means ignore every bad thing that happened to you before and give every man the benefit of the doubt.
I say, live with caution, until he has earned your trust. For example, he doesn't take calls secretly, he has integrity with his money his credit (trust me--how he treats his money, no matter how much he has--is telling of his trustworthiness and integrity).
Also, in the beginning, don't see at as meeting a potential "serious" relationship. If every guy you date is the superbowl, how will you enjoy the game? Have fun (respect boundaries-- no exclusive relationship means no acting like BF & GF when you guys are not). This way, you are challange to him, you are protecting your heart and in the end, YOU decide what to do next.
The only way to do all these things is to actually have a self-esteem! So pick it up gurl! You are here to choose not to be chosen! I recommend the book, "A Date Worth Keeping" by Henry Cloud. This man changed my life!
2006-12-19 10:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by RCGurlyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a similar situation, and all I can say is eventually you're going to have to move on. Letting someone in is hard, but its worth it in the end. Let yourself fall for this guy, and while you do want to be careful about who you give your heart to, allow yourself to fall for someone.
2006-12-19 11:04:17 · answer #3 · answered by Flagstones925 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're going to get your heart broken more than once in your lifetime..that's pretty normal..so what you have to decide for yourself if the experiences along the way are worth the heartache that will also eventually come...it happens to everyone, you are not alone...but you only lose by holding back, at least in my opinion
2006-12-19 10:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to take the first step sometime. You have been without him for way longer than you were with him. Take things slow, be careful, but remember, you can't keep running, you will end up alone for ever doing things that way.
2006-12-19 10:32:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you re stupid rigth to date again it is not to be scary.OK
2006-12-19 10:30:47 · answer #6 · answered by angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋