Ok so tonight is our one year anniversary and im planning on popping the question but here is the problem...... i dont believe in buying those monster engagement rings with all the diamonds until the day we get married so instead i bought us matching promise rings and have gotten our names engraved inside of both...... but here is the problem im afraid she is going to think im a cheap a ss becuase i didnt do the two months salary or let her know i love her by buying diamonds that wil...... am i wrong or is this tradition kind of messed up...... i have no problem buyin the nice big ring on the wedding day but i just dont think buying it for an engagement is right what if she says no or what if she says yes and then changes her mind..... HELP ME PLEASE
2006-12-19 02:23:17 · 27 answers · asked by that guy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you cheap bastard. Give her a big diamond! Everyone will look at her fag "promise Ring" and think you are a cheap bastard. What are you 15?
2006-12-19 02:26:35 · answer #1 · answered by gemini 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
A promise ring is a promise ring.
An engagement ring is an engagement ring.
There is a difference, and you can't get around it.
Don't go into the poor house to get the diamond. $2000 - $3000 will get you a very nice diamond she will be proud to show off.
And on another subject....
Try talking to her about it all first. I know "popping the question" sound exciting and romantic, but to be quite honest 1 year isn't a very long time. Are you even sure she'll say yes? Often the return policy on diamond ring are non-existent ...it's like buying a car, as soon as you drive off the lot the value depreciates 20%
Some people talk it over, and pick out a ring together.
2006-12-19 10:36:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not cheap; it's a cute idea, but I do think you might want to rethink it a bit. There is no need to spend an astrnomical amount on an engagement ring, but I think a nice ring is on order (about 500 dollars or so) with a smaller diamond--you can get some really pretty rings for less than you are thinking. The matching bands would be more appropriate for the wedding day.
2006-12-19 10:27:05 · answer #3 · answered by jrhod263 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hum, this one's hard. To me sounds like your not sure if she feels the same way that you do? If you cannot commit to an engagement ring and are afraid she will reject you, maybe you should give the relationship a little more time. When you are sure of something you wouldn't have any hesitation. Promise rings are just that, a promise. Something you do in High School. If I where you I'd do some more soul searching and weigh everything, especially your insecurity. Why the doubt? Why do you think she will say no? Why would she all of a sudden call it off if she does say yes? Soul search my friend, soul search.
2006-12-19 10:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by corina381 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a very sweet and sensitive guy. If she is that materialistic your life would be hell if you married. A promise ring is fantastic. The engraving is so sentimental and thoughtful. I think you did the right thing and if she balks or gufaws at it then you have your answer to who you DO NOT want to marry. It isn't about the ring but the symbolism. It is about the relationship. Hopefully she will see you as a wonderful, sweet and sentimental man.
2006-12-19 10:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by amazedmaize 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My engagement ring didn't cost 2 month's salary. It is antique and we chose it together. I know money isn't the answer to everything and it is what it represents rather than the value of it. To be honest if I had a hgue rock I would be frightened to death to wear it.
If your girl is worth the propsal then she ill see it for hat it is meant to be. A very endearing gesture. Maybe when money isn't such an issue you can go and get her a nice eternity ring after you have been married a couple of years.
Best of luck and I hope she says yes.
2006-12-19 10:28:35 · answer #6 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your idea is nice and that there is nothing wrong on it. It's actually very sweet of you with the names engraved thing.
If she is gonna feel weird about it then I don't know what to say. Those diamond thing doesn't represent 'love' to me. It's just symbol that we humen have made it up. It's just an object that we make it expensive. It's a theme from jewelry store, so ignore the norm.
Your GF should appreciate the gift your will give her.
2006-12-19 10:29:24 · answer #7 · answered by Mumbling Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That has got to be one of the sweetest ways I have heard of popping the question in a very long time. You have heart my friend--you go for it--nothing is better than originality. Matching rings with your names in them is not only thoughtful but very nice and very personal. Tell her when before you get married--you two can go and pick out the wedding rings together.
2006-12-19 10:29:18 · answer #8 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The size and the cost should be the least of her worry. And if she truly love you for you then all that expensive diamond stuff shouldn't matter. And i hope she says yes but if she says no then maybe it wasn't meant to be right now. And if she says yes and change her mind then you just hang on in there and just figure that it may be best to just wait a little longer. Good Luck!
2006-12-19 10:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was me i'd be in love! i think you have already gaged her out and know her tastes....personally i don't like diamonds, and i'm not a flashy type of person, and would much rather have something like that than the huge rock. aside from that...love means more than a diamond. you can put a price on a ring, but not on the love it symbolizes, so don't worry. she isn't going to be mad, and she'll love the surprising ring you give her on the wedding day that much more!
2006-12-19 10:31:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she likes you and you are the right fit for each other the size of the ring wont matter to her. A big ring brings bragging rights not love. which is more important.
tonight will be great and forever a memory.
2006-12-19 10:29:37 · answer #11 · answered by G's Random Thoughts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋