My 1 year old son has taken to biting and smacking on a regular basis. I tell him it's 'bad' and put him down if he wants carrying etc but now he just smacks me and say's 'bad'. I can't win!! Anyone help me??
2006-12-19 02:20:50 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
He's probably trying to communicate. That's usually why toddlers act like that. Try to figure out what he wants and teach him the words to ask for it or to express what he is feeling. Look for things that trigger his actions and try to "head him off at the pass" before it happens and teach him the correct way to handle things.
ETA:
I knew they'd start posting it eventually. DO NOT bite him back! That's cruel. And what does it teach? That it's OK to bite if you're bigger and stronger????? Talk about mixed messages.
2006-12-19 02:23:28 · answer #1 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's hard being a mother now of days especially with advance toddlers and even babies growing up too fast, but I found if I try to follow these simple steps, it helps me stay strong, hopefully they can help you the way they've me:
The Do's and Don'ts of Discipline
Do:
* Be consistent: Toddlers learn from repetition.
* Be firm: Let them know by your voice and facial expression that you mean what you say.
* Be kind: Reassure your toddler after his fits are finished.
* Be realistic: Don't put unrealistic demands on your toddler. Time out for an hour, for instance, is too long.
Don't
* Yell: Toddlers will not understand any better if you yell. It only frightens them.
* Plead: This brings you down to their whining level.
* Underestimate: If you keep your directions simple, toddlers are able to understand what you want from them at a very early age.
2006-12-19 10:27:45 · answer #2 · answered by sarabmw 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My aunt is going through the same thing with her 1 year old! When he bites you bite him back! And if he smacks you pick a time out place and put him there with no toys are tv around! he will learn not to do these things and that they are bad! This works for my aunt so I hope it works for you!
2006-12-19 10:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by LiL MaMa 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
ps. Toddlers taste like chicken...laughing my @ss off Ryan. I thought they tasted like bacon.
This is a tough one...Personally I was raised that you bite them back w/ an explaination. But after taking childcare classes they say timeout. But timeout doesn't work for habitual biters or any unruly child for that matter. So what do you do? Never seen a child bite who has been bitten, they understand that it hurts, therefore don't do it again.
True I think biting back is a little extreme, but if all else fails maybe it should be used as a last resort.
Just getting into trouble for their actions isn't enough sometimes, some people have to understand WHY their behavior or actions are unacceptable. This is true for adults as well as children.
2006-12-19 11:25:38 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The first and last time my son bit me, I bit him back. Not terribly hard, just enough to get his attention and to convey the message it did not feel good. Go ahead, call SRS on me. I have a nephew who continues to bite. His parents won't take my suggestion.
Ps. Toddlers taste like chicken
2006-12-19 10:33:05 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan R 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
keep telling him no dont do that and put him down straight way. give him no more attention and if neccesary walk away to another room.
2006-12-19 16:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋