Hi there. I have been involved in a long-distance relationship for almost a year now and I really really find it hard to get along with my partner. We can only chat and most of the time, we end up with a fight; may it be small matters or big matters. He has always promised me that he will come over and visit me but he never did it. He has actually promised me three times but he never did it. I was really really dissapointed in him and i felt really hurt about this. He always tell me how much he love me and miss me and wanting so much to see me but he never take any action. What should I do? Should i continue on with this relationship or is it time to let go?
2006-12-19 02:16:14 · 11 answers · asked by Care G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well in your heart you already know the answer. But to put it out there, first let him know this. talk to him and advise him you need more and are not getting it. If he cannot produce better results you might wanna move on.
2006-12-19 02:22:06 · answer #1 · answered by champagne b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has it always been a long distance relationship? I would think that he should have made some sort of effort to come and see you within the year. -- or even meet somewhere in the middle. Maybe he doesn't have the money to come and see you? If he has the money and the time, and has still made no effort, I would probably move on. I have always found that actions speak louder than words. Does he start the arguments? If he does, I would move on, I don't think that you have his whole heart, like you should. You deserve better, you deserve someone who will drop everything and stop at nothing to spend time with you. Believe it or not, there are guys out there that will treat you with respect.
2006-12-19 02:22:40 · answer #2 · answered by cptkmwallman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go and leave him..its hard a long distance relationship bccause you never see him or touch him..my exhusband living state and twice a yr he visited us with the kids if his here with me we dont fight i swear but when he go back we fisght really.sometimes im thinking why its like that..until he cheated and cant live without a woman beside her..i let him go and no accepted him..your lucky that he just a boyfriend not a husband so its hurt so much unlike ive been through..till now i love him and miss him same with him..but i dont him anymore cause he broke my trust to him...and thats the important...you let him know what you feel and if hes not going to see you dont expect anymore cause in the end you will hurt...trust me because i did...goodluck and pray
2006-12-19 02:28:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just messing with ya. Get rid of him. Honestly LD is hard and if you can't have consistent time to be with each other in person there is no way to make it work. I am in a LD right now but we are together every weekend (5 hour drives are rough). I would say avoid LD relationships if at all possible...there are plenty of guys around you that you can be with!
2006-12-19 02:24:10 · answer #4 · answered by Trevor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering what relationship you're talking about.....its seems to me like he's just stringing you along and making you sad probably blaming you which results in a fight....I would let it go and find someone worth investing your time in
2006-12-19 02:24:29 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, how many times have you heard that long-distance relationships don't work!? (There are exceptions) Overall, I believe you know what needs to be done.
2006-12-19 02:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LET GOOOOOOOOOOO Girlfriend. Theres too many men out there wanting to spend time with a real person in the flesh and wanting to be loved as well.
2006-12-19 02:22:14 · answer #7 · answered by CryBaby 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it is time to let him go.
If he loved you as much as he says he does, he would NOT have missed 3 different opportunities to see you.
If he really does love you, he would have been to see you and more than once by now.
You should seriously consider letting go and moving on.
2006-12-19 02:20:59 · answer #8 · answered by sglesxyldy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why haven't you gone and visit him instead?
If you decide to go, I'd make it a mission trip. You ask what you want to to him and that you know exactly what to expect.
2006-12-19 02:25:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give him any money! Sounds like he's a liar dump him. Disconnect.
2006-12-19 02:25:29 · answer #10 · answered by corina381 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋