I am 15 and has had sex with an 18 year old. My mom doesnt knw but she knows we do other things and wants to press chargers, but she doesnt understand that were in love and were not doing it to use eachother. if we were he wouldnt of moved to rhode island from tennesse to be with me and give up a free 4 year college.
what should i tell her?
2006-12-19 02:12:02 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he gave up collge for free to be up here with me and to see me now hes struggling to stay just to be with me
hes not using
me
there
2006-12-19 02:18:42 · update #1
hey, i liked an 18 yr old and we were gonan have sex for fun you know. but he really loves you i no what you are going threw. be like mom do you want me to do drugs? or have sex? Id say sex if i was a mom
I LOVE YOU LINDSEY!!!
2006-12-19 02:18:18 · answer #1 · answered by oh snapp 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I totally understand what you're going through and love attacks us all regardless of our age. At this point, you're only 15 years old and your mother is only looking out for your best interest because to her, she's wondering why is an 18 year old man interested in her 15 year old daughter? Couldn't he get someone his own age? These are all concerns that your mother has for you, and i'm sure that your mother does not want to see you hurt.
Even though you guys love each other as you say you do, becareful and take your relationship slow. You are still very young, and you have your whole life ahead of you to love.
If you have a good relationship with your mother, assure her that your relationship with this 18 year old is not serious as you say it is, sit and talk with her and tell her that you guys just go out on dates and that your really good friends. Let her know the good qualities of this guy, list them out for her, he's a good friend, he listens to me, he's fun to be around etc... you do not want to alarm your mother that you're already sexually active because that will just set her off. You need your mother to be able to trust you and this boy that you like.
Good luck.
2006-12-19 02:29:36 · answer #2 · answered by annalezam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should not have given up his education for you. He would be showing his love for you by getting an education, therefore being able to give you a good life and home when you are old enough to really love him. You both seem to have a lot of growing up to do. It would have been much better to have a distance relationship. If it really is love, being apart would not have mattered. You would have both been in a better position in four years. You are only 15 years old, your mom is only thinking of the future that neither one of you are thinking about.
2006-12-19 02:25:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Great, he gave up college to be with you. Now he is destined to live in poverty. Feeling good about yourself now? Your immature, and thats O.K. cause at 15 your supposed to be immature. That's why you shouldn't have sex. You aren't old enough to make good decisions. Neither is he for that matter. Sit down with your Mom and apoligize for messing up. Admit that you made a poor choice - no need to confess the sex. Then apologize to him for screwing up his life. If you truelly love him then you will want what is best for him. You can be together when he is done with school and you have grown up.
2006-12-19 02:19:54 · answer #4 · answered by ankle biter tamer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok i was with a guy that was 24 and i thought he wasnt useing me either but that was a lie. i have been there and done that with the whole charges thing... give it up... if yall really love each other then you will not want anythin to happen to that person... they will be there when you turn 18 and if not the it was just for sex.... not meaning to be mean just honest....
2006-12-19 02:16:19 · answer #5 · answered by lil nic 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your so young bit what done is done...now,you have to follow your mother and she knows what the best for you and tell your boyfriend that if he really loves you wait for you until the right age...and you will meet more than him and if hes a really nice guy she will understand you..your not matured yet and i understand what you going through because t happend to me when i was young..i didnt listen to my parents i was mistake then now i realize how importhant the role of our parents into our lives...
2006-12-19 02:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not "in love"...you're just in heat. You're having sex...PERIOD! That's what the 18 year old wants, a young punk who'll just give it up without a thought. You're just a sex toy! Grow the "F" up!
2006-12-19 02:16:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is very concerned about you .At your age your hormones are interfering with your sound judgement. Plus you dont have much life experience.Is your boyfriend not welcome at home ? Did your mom say he is bad news ? To listen to your mom would not be a mistake at your age.
2006-12-19 02:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by Shark 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to your mom tell her how you feel about him shes just looking out for you and dosnt want you to get hurt also ask yourself this why with up college for free
2006-12-19 02:17:27 · answer #9 · answered by hallowsevenight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too Bad to have at this age. This is not right age to have.
2006-12-19 02:16:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anand A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋