what is believing yourself?

Question

When I was in university I had more clear and beautiful vision of life,happiness and love.
But getting older I began to lose it.
The main reason was things that happened to me .I wanted to become a musician but I became another thing . I found a real love but dumped it .I knew and felt something was wrong.

Still I have the sense of the vision that I had younger days.But again and again I forgot the vision and make terrible mistakes.

Life is short but full of beautiful and wonderful things.I do not want to live against my vision of life I dont want to waste my life time either and I want to find my real love.

But I feel I can make same mistakes again like I dld.
I think I am in lack of selfconfidence or selfrespect or something .Any help or advice?

Answer 1

You probably will not make the same mistakes again. Like most of us, you will make new and different ones. You learn from your mistakes and move on. Some of us take longer to learn than others, especially on questions of emotional matters, but we do learn.

You are right that life is short, but there's a strange distortion in perception about the number of years remaining. When I was very young, we had a slogan "never trust anyone over 30." Indeed, many of us did not expect to live to the age of 30. However, my next birthday will be 60. Trust me I've made at least my share of mistakes, and probably more. But nowadays I think in terms of Jiminy Cricket's song about "I'm no fool, no sirree; I'm going to live to be 93."

But we develop new goals as we age, whether or not we have ever fulfilled all the dreams we had when we were young. And sometimes old dreams can be revived because of some change in the world or in yourself.

I always dreamed of being a published writer, but the fates have not been kind. However, now I have a good computer with a printer that works right here in my living room. Now I can write. And I have ideas of what I want to write, many stimulated by my experiences here in Yahoo Answers.

As to finding love, if you are not hooked on having children, there is no time deadline for love. If you want children, you need to keep your eye on the fact that women who get pregnant after the age of 35 have increasing risks of complications, and of delivering a baby with birth defects. The eggs are as old as the rest of her body, and as she ages, more of them become damaged.

But love comes in many forms. The older you get, the less a woman's looks matters to you, the more her character and her devotion to you. What your family and friends think of her means less, too, because you realize that those who love you want you to be happy, and so they will generally be accepting of any woman who makes you happy.

So if you plan to seek a mother for your children, go ahead and make that a priority. Perhaps, since you are feeling such a loser, you need to look for a woman who would enjoy running a family business, and who therefore does not expect you to already have a thriving business or large salary. You can build your business together, and age doesn't matter much in that.

Answer 2

Life is not a straight and smooth road to speed through but a twisted and bumpy country lane one to enjoy as you go. Sometimes you don't end up where you expect but everything has a reason and purpose
Believing in yourself is an act of faith (hence belief) Knowing yourself is just as important and you learn more about yourself by your mistakes than your successes so just keep moving along you will get where you need to be when you need to be there I hope you take the time to look at all you have at all stages of your journey you will be amased at how wonderful and beautiful you really are but you wouldn't know it if you didn't woes and worries to compare it too

Answer 3

I think beleving in your slef you have a calm peac about your life and you feel so good when you do things that you'd never thought you could do you set goals for your own personl need

Your life feels right and you know that you have a place in the world that you can call your very own and well just

Being you