My son is 17 months is it normal for him, to start the terrible twos this early is is he just being cranky and stuff . any help would be apreciated
2006-12-19 01:48:33 · 8 answers · asked by Alicia M 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Yes...it does not always start at two...it just shows that your son is maturing and is trying to find his "place" in this world, as your son, not just your "baby" any more!!! This is a stage that children start learning their Independence..they are still "baby" enough to be selfish with the whole process...in other words..their whole life has revolved around THEIR wants and needs....so this still dominates their behavior...they will need your guidance to help them learn what is socially acceptable!
And this takes a WHOLE lot of patience from you! LOL!
Get on your running shoes, put on your hat...and get ready for the ride of your life!!! lol! You will find it easier if you will "choose" your battles so to speak...learn to say "yes" as much as possible...and remember..this is all about HIM... his independence...let him make as many choices as possible... (no one but YOU will care if his shirt is on backward, or inside out...or if his socks match, or the heel is in the right place...at least HE DID IT!!!! YOU will learn to LOVE celebrating his acomplishments with him... then later..you can go back and show him where the tag goes..or the heel on the sock!!! lol ...just do not compromise when it comes to his own safety..or to discipline...this will be his social graces later...you will find methods that work best for you...ignore the tantrums...(get him out of public view quickly when they occur while you are shopping or whatever!)
This is really a hectic time in his and your lives...but just as you think you have things going in YOUR favor...
there are the "tremendous" three's...the "fantasic four's...the "fabulous five's.... the stupendous six's....starting to get the message????
Enjoy and "savor" every last detail while these stages last!!!
(And when you are at your wits end...remember.. THIS TOO...will pass... ) they grow up and away so quickly!!!!
(which may also be a blessing for your sanity's sake..lol)
...You are making such wonderful memories...and grat stories to tell your grandchildren!!!! My 7 year old grand daughter just LOVES hearing about things her father did "when he was a little boy" from what he liked to eat... to how HE went to bed...how HE did his home work...to: " how much money did the Tooth Fairy leave Daddy when he was a little boy? "
2006-12-19 03:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by photogram1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My 18month old is seems to be in the same place as your 17m. His behavior is normal for 2 reasons.
1) He is still cutting teeth and when he is uncomfortable he will be very hard to please.
2) He is very smart (studies have shown smarter babies can be tougher) and he is noticing he has his own likes and dislikes. This is his way of telling you what he wants or doesn't want. Try talking to him and asking him what he wants in a calm voice and try to figure out what he really wants. He may not know or even understand but he will see you being comforting to him.
Make sure he is getting plenty of rest during the day and some infant Tylenol should help with his discomfort.
This won't last forever he just needs to learn to express him self in a more effective way and you can show him that with patients and communication.
I've been a certified nanny for 11 years and I'm a mother of 2.
If all else fails give him a fun bath, no kid can resist a bath.
Good Luck
2006-12-19 02:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by jen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 05:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As my adorable little brat says, "yes-uh-huh!" :-)
The "terrible twos" stage doesn't start on their second birthday. Some kids start it early, some start it late (we're only really getting into it with my youngest and he's three), and some don't start it at all.
From what I can tell, the common "terrible twos" basically stems from a combination of a fierce independant streak and an inability for a child to exert that independance when he or she wants to.
What has helped most for us is to allow extra time for everything (I get a lot of "I DO IT!" with things like car seats, shoes, jackets, opening juice boxes, etc. for the most part he can do those things, it just takes time) and to offer as many options as you can for your child to make decisions (no, he can't wear his swimsuit in December, but he can choose between two or three appropriate outfits). Learn to let the little things go. If he brushes his own hair and it sticks straight up, just leave it. If he gets himself dressed and his back pockets are in front, leave it. My kids' preschool teachers are used to them walking in with mismatched clothes or shirts on backwards, and they understand completely when I say "he got himself dressed this morning". Just make sure what he is wearing is clean, it fits, and it's appropriate for the weather.
Another "terrible twos" time is dinnertime for us. I fix a dinner, and Colin decides he'd rather have something else, and will actually try to get in the kitchen to get it. He seems okay, though, if I offer him some reasonable choices in regards to dinner. Milk or water? Spiderman plate or Spongebob plate?
You don't have to put up with tantrums, however. You're still the parent, so if there is an issue where he wants something and you just can't compromise (like demanding to wear his swimming trunks in December), you may still get the tantrum. Personally, I have a variety of ways to handle them, none of which are absolutely effective. :-) The one that works best with my youngest son (the older one is totally unaffected by this) is to just say "okay, bye!" and walk away, not looking back. He may stay where he is and pout for a minute, but he's usually trailing along behind me hollering "wait!!!!" before I get more than a few steps away. If the tantrum turns ugly and he breaks other rules during it (hitting, back-talking, etc.), he gets in trouble for those individual things, either by way of a time out or a swat on the backside. Our theory is that being upset is okay, but being ugly as a result of it is not. Seems to work for us, but it doesn't for some others.
The "terrible twos" are annoying, but there's a reason they exist, and it's a valid part of your child's development. If you let it go too far (your child throws a tantrum for everything) you're not doing your child any favors, but if you try to stop it altogether (it's quicker and easier for you to pick out the clothes and get him dressed yourself, rather than letting him at least help), your child isn't learning to do things on his own. It's a fine balance.
Good luck!
2006-12-19 02:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Jump on the terrible two bandwagon my friend!!!!! If you find a solution to this stage in every child's life, write a book, you will make a fortune!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-19 01:56:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Could he be teething? (crankiness) Also I dont think there is a "SET" age for any behaviour.
2006-12-19 01:50:52 · answer #6 · answered by lana_zug_zug 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well its just the begining...terrible twos...furosious fours..then twisted teens ! good luck honey ..its parenting time now...!
2006-12-19 02:00:09 · answer #7 · answered by connie sue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't put up with it put your foot down now and it will make a world of differnce later. good luck.
2006-12-19 01:52:44 · answer #8 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋