Should I let boyfriend go away without me? We are both in our mid thirties?

Question

As tradition, my boyfriends boss has taken him away for a short trip every year for the past 10 years. he does it for him as a christmas gift. This is the first year my boyfriend and i are together and i dont want to take that away from him. he is a very hard worker. We are going to take a trip together in a few months also..do u think its good for him to go?? or should i insist he doesnt? is it good for a couple to sometimes be apart like that???

Answer 1

First off you do not ahve the right to tell him not to go. He has been doing it for 10 years now.
Just remember that distance makes the heart grow fonder and that in a few months you will be going away with him

Answer 2

Let him go on the boss's trip and don't grill him about where he goes, who he's with, etc. That will give him the power position because then he'll know you're jealous. If you talk to him while he is away just ask him if he's having a nice time and don't sound suspicious. When he comes back don't mention anything about his trip and the above questions. You don't want to sound jealous OR controlling.

Answer 3

If your boyfriend wants to go that's his decision not yours to make. Time apart can be good if it makes the other person realize they miss not being with you. Don't be insecure about the trip especially if he's been doing it for years. Have fun when you two go on your trip together..

Answer 4

I admit it kind of blows, but you need to look at it from this perspective, job security.

Think about it. What's his boss going to think if he punks out now? It's the same principle as blowing off the office Christmas party, even if you don't like anyone you work with. The illiusion that you think you are too good to do these things can damage your working relationships.

With that said, my advice is, "If it ain't broke, don't fix it." If he's done this for years on end let him go again, and maybe he can plant the seed this year that maybe they could curb these plans next year.

Answer 5

Is his boss a woman? Is that why you don't want him to go?

I don't think you have any right to make him do anything. He is a grown man and can make his own mind up. If he wants to go he will and if he wants to stay home he will tell his boss he is in a new relationship and he doesn't want to go.

If you stamp your feet then he this is likely not to be an issue for him next year as you won't be around.

Answer 6

So he's been going on a trip with work for 10 years, and you're even considering insisting he not go because you're insecure? Don't even think about asking something like that of him. That's totally inappropriate on your part.

Answer 7

If you trust him enough, then it should not worry you! there is nothing wrong if a couple spend a few days apart. If it is not in his nature to cheat on you, he will not cheat but if he has a cheating record, then you should not even let him go to work in the first place cause he can meet any women at work.

Answer 8

Does he go away alone every year? If so, he should definitely take the trip this year. This may be the only time he has every year to recharge and get back to basics.

Answer 9

Yes you should let him go... I encourage myman to go away or do things with his friends... he needs the time as do you... the thought of it probably scares you but if you insisted he not go that makes you look crazy and insecure... are you? is that why you do not want him to go? If your going away together in a few months any how... you better let him go, if you try to tell him otherwise you may loose him...

Answer 10

Yes it is good for a couple to be apart. I'm currently in a long distant relationship, and I believe that's the reason why it has lasted so long. You two need time apart. Let him enjoy his vacation, you said it yourself that he deserves it. You two will have your special time in few months anyway.