A question for the women?

Question

Im getting close to 34 and I still get carded for things and my boyfriend always tells me how sexy and hot I am. Why is it when I look in the mirror I dont see what he sees, I look in the mirror and I see someone who is getting older and I just dont feel attractive anymore is this normal for women my age to feel this way? I heard the 30's are when women are suppose to be at their sexiest why dont I feel that way? Im 5'2, 125lbs and no wrinkles at the present time what things can I do to feel more attractive, It really has me depressed? Help

Answer 1

I am about to turn 36the 21st of DEC. I have been there! You are your worst critic. Stop looking in the mirror and seeing what you don't like about yourself. Look for things you like! At first it is hard to do because you train yourself to look for your flaws. When I look in the mirror I see a beautiful woman (my opinion counts the most) Your opinion counts the most with you. People that look at you are not looking for your flaws...They see what you enhance and project to them...don't ya think its about time you start seeing what you are putting forth! Enjoy who you are and Love yourself inside and out.

Answer 2

Maybe it's because you're a co-dependent and need a lot of ego stroking? Why else would you put your height and weight on here and all the compliments you get from your boyfriend?

In my opinion, it sounds like you have invested so much of who you are into your physical appearance, that you have neglected the most important part of you- your brain. Try going back to school and learning something; anything, even just for a pottery class. When I found myself feeling worth less and unattractive, it's because my confidence level was low. Also, becoming proficient at something else besides being sexy, made me feel more of my self worth.

I'm not trying to be rude, or insulting~ I just know how you feel. I'm pretty damn sexy myself (hehehe) but it was the confidence in myself at one point that made me question it. I also want to add that you're not in the same bracket as 20 year olds, you're competing on a "higher level" now, so the pressure should be REALLY taken off.

Answer 3

Stop being so hard on your self, if you are still getting carded you must be doing something right! Maybe it is time for a drastic change, maybe a new hair style? change the color, get some highlights, or cut it! How about going to a Day Spa, getting a facial, pedicure, manicure the works. A new wardrobe? Do not be depressed if your man is giving you compliments, YOU STILL GOT IT! WORK IT GIRL! :-)

Happy Holidays!

Answer 4

Please don't feel that way. There are many sexy women who are not physically attractive. I don't think sexy only refers to physically. You can be sexy when you master knowledge more than other women. The perspective of you to see this world is essential for you because it may affect how you see yourself. Try to make your interests gradually wider and impersonal, for example, trying more new sports or go to learn dancing will make you feel good about yourself. Every woman has her own attractive highlights, and so do you!

Answer 5

Women only? Pfft... I'm a 44-yr-old male.

At a young age people learn to like others but not themselves. Eyebrows, chin, hair, lips, smile, frown, tears, size... You name it!

Everyone always wants or likes what someone else has. Whether it's looks or attitudes, it doesn't matter.

You know yourself better than anyone... This includes flaws, scars, blemishes... In your appearance, your character or in your personality.

You are your worst critic. Try going easier on yourself and enjoy all the good things everyone else sees in you.

Answer 6

we all have our insecurities and when my fiance says im sexy i dont believe him eather. sometimes i wear makeup when i want to feel good about myself and dress good, pamper yourself seriuosly it works have a day at the spa or get your hair cut , get a pedicure, and a manicure, and then go shopping for new cloths that you like and that helps you lift your spirits about youself, but you have to much time on your hands then turn your bathroom into your own spa and stay in there for hours, we all see ourselfs a little differently in the mirror then what others do and its ok, take care of youself, learn to relax and PAMPER yourself youll feel sexy soon enough. youmust find a balanced medium that works for you

Answer 7

34 is NOT even close to middle age.

Women are always their worst critics. It is nice to hear that you look good from your boyfriend but the what really matters is how you feel. I know as we get older it is hard not to notice certain differences. But they aren't bad differences. You are probably more self-aware, including sexually more aware. I don't know of many things to do to feel more attractive. Try wearing things that make you feel good-if you feel good you look good, remind yourself that you look good, don't compare yourself to anything. (even you from before)
I think as women age we all start to doubt things from time to time.

Answer 8

It's that "middle-aged" curse thing that woman THINK they HAVE to go through. You have heard about it before, right? Well, don't think you have to go through it just because "that's the way it is" when you reach a certain age. Woman (and men) look as good as they feel about themselves. Your THOUGHTS are what's going to"age" you. Brighten up, and enjoy yourself, stop picking out your little "flaws". There are only there if you PUT them there!

Answer 9

Maybe you just feel bored..

Why don't you do some make over: get new hairstyle, recreate your wardrobes, buy some more make up, and be happy!

You should feel blessed for what you have in life right now..

If you do then you will feel good about yourself, feel sexy and great..

Answer 10

Don't worry! From what you stated about yourself, you sound really pretty. Maybe you just have high standards for yourself. I wouldn't worry about anything until you get a butt load of wrinkles and weigh at least 300 pounds!