I am going out with this guy for six months, i really love him dearly and he also told me, he really wanted to marry me. He used to like this girl and shes now married and a son. She keeps contacting him but he stop contacting her because of me. She also talks to me and i know she didn't like me.There was another girl, she also like him and he told me about her and i got angry and told him that tell her f*** off. he said come on i was only joking. I believed him. Then i was making jokes, he got really angry and stubborn and i was like huh? he said sorry about my attitude, i forgave him and then later a week i send him mail by accident. I went to his mail and delete it. I found out the same girl the one he was making joke about and his ex who is married send him mail for picture of her and son. I told my friend, that I know he is hiding something from me but he tells me everything. I really love him and i just don't know what to do, his birthday is on thurs and i don't want to spoil it
2006-12-19 01:22:52 · 12 answers · asked by AnGeL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well despite the fact that someone says they arent hiding anything from you, doesnt mean that they dont have anything to hide & u already know this otherwise you wouldnt have been in his "mail" yes i know u said u had to erase something u sent be "ACCIDENT", but honey STEVIE WONDER can see through that 1!!!!! now on 1 hand u strive to sound "SECURE', in this relationship~ but yet you seem to be intimidated, by his ex & the other chick~ so i sense a lil insecurity on your part, so that needs to be addressed 1st & foremost (okay??), i know it upset you 2 find that email, but there is more than 1 way to veiw this okay~ they may be able to maintain a friendship & he knows that you wont except it as "A FRIENDSHIP" so he didnt let you know about this, well quite naturally that crosses some trust boundaries, but it takes us right back to insecurities that must be handled...now also the 2 of you must talk about this & everything else that seems to be wrong in your relationship in order to make it, communication & trust are like air and water when creating a bond, w/out it the relationship will surely die!!!! never mind his birthday, get to the root of this A.S.A.P~ or else his birthday will be the smallest of the ruined things in this situation, b/c he's not right to have these things going on & you not knowing!!! if its so innocent y hide it???? good luck & keep us informed with the latest b/c i'd love to know how things turn out...
2006-12-19 01:40:49 · answer #1 · answered by kimmiegaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what you get for snooping. There could be very simple, logical reasons for what you found, remember, they are sending to him, not the other way around. It's not as though he's asking for it. You could try and tell him what you accidentally did, apologizing at the same time, and reinforce the fact that you love and trust him but that it makes you uncomfortable knowing that other women are contacting him. They could just be friends, in which case, that shouldn't be a problem to you, accept it.
2006-12-19 01:30:04 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there's one thing I've learn from life is that second best is not worth settling for. Move on and enjoy life, one day a wonderful guy who loves you and doesn't mess you around will make you so happy.. It's worth the wait.
2006-12-19 01:29:03 · answer #3 · answered by einochi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about you stop snooping on him?
Peopel in relationships are allowed some privacy and not all "secrets" are detrimental or suspicious.
For God's sake, it was a picture of her and her son!! Not a photo of her naked with her legs wide apart.
2006-12-19 01:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has his habit replaced? or merely the passwords? human beings have a precise to privateness even in a relationship. you ought to believe him with or with out passwords yet when he's performing otherwise and giving authentic motives to no longer believe him it extremely is a few thing else.
2016-11-27 19:53:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok it cud be nothing or it cud be something big....u have to talk about it..it cud be just her sending a friendly pic..or it cud be the start of something more serious...but what im thinkin is if it was serious he wud delete the emails to make sure u never see them..if its just casual stuff he has no reason to delete it and no reason to hide it from you... i think u shud just ask about it find out what is really going on..like i said it cud be nothing..
2006-12-19 01:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm just going to answer the top question...
If I had a boyfriend who was hiding from me (which never happened before, but for arguments sake, let us be hypothetical) I would simply "hide" from him. Sounds like a break up then...Oh, that's a thought.
2006-12-19 01:26:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you've got 'trust issues'. He's certaintly making an effort to ensure you're jealous and suspicious. What a guy?!
2006-12-19 01:37:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
"I have a giant, slimy booger creeping out of my nose and resting comfortably on my upper lip... should I wipe it away?"
Sorry, I was just seeing if there was a question that had a more obvious answer than yours...
2006-12-19 01:29:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sell his stuff on eBay and move on with your life...
2006-12-19 01:26:04 · answer #10 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋