My son is 5-yrs old, I also have a nephew the same age. For some unknown reason my mother and grandmother favor my son and treat him as if he is the prince of the land. They do it when he is with me, when they watch him as well as when my nephew is around. If my son whines (which he does CONSTANTLY) he gets it. He gets pushed a bit too much and cries they cuddle him like a baby. My son is far from fragile. He will wrestle and hit just like any other boy. When it's just him, my b/f, his son and myself at home, he doens't whimper or cry when the kids start fighting but when he's around my mom and grandmother, he goes into complete sissy mode. They give into him all of the time. This is putting a serious damper on the relationship I have with my sister because she sees it as well, too much. When I punish my son in front of them, I am told I am being mean. I have talked with them, yelled and even kept them from my son. What else can I do? They refuse to see my point. Help!
2006-12-19 01:05:36 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
all of my kids have favortisim from one person or another have had since each one of them was born. it may even change from one person to another. i tell my family that i dont expect for each one of my kids to get something when they buy but dont forget that i have other kids the next time take turns. it is hard to deal with because they dont see where they are hurting anything. maybe if u and ur sister both talked to them it would help. i dont have alot of problem like i used to. they finally understand. i do have 2 girls and a boy so that does make for the girls shopping trips with aunt and grandma but he goes and does guy things. i hope you can take what i have done and use it to your advantage. good luck just remember they are only kids once and grandmas arent always here.
2006-12-19 01:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by coley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have twin sons and my mother favors one over the other. Its even harder to deal with when its siblings. What i try to do is stick to my guns, discipline your son when you see fit...if you see them getting ready to give in to him when he is whineing and not asking the way he is suppose to, try to step in ahead of them and make him ask properly. If your mother is anything like mine, talking to her isnt going to work, and its a shame. I would just try to step in when you can and even if it means hearing you are "mean" ignore it and continue how you want as a parent. He is your son and you have to take him home with you, so you don't want that behavior going home from grandmas. As for the nephew, thats a shame he has to see the favortism....my twins see it a lot. One is way more outgoing, therefore a favorite. Its sad and its hard....but maybe when your son is getting attention, play with your nephew. He still gets attention and gives you time to enjoy him as well. Good luck...its a tough one. Have a merry christmas!
2006-12-19 01:22:31 · answer #2 · answered by misty n justin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a secret video of life at home to show them that your son is playing them. Talk to your sister and let her know that you don't like what is happening and want it stopped as much as she does.
Every time they do favor (baby) your son point it out to them.
2006-12-19 01:42:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the son has learned the art of manipulation.
It's time to put a clamp on it before he turns into monster later in life.
You need to have a chat with the coddlers and put a stop to it.
2006-12-19 01:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can perfectly understand what you mean. You have to find ways to make sure your sister and her child doesn't see your child being praised. That could really demage the relationship. you can also talk to your son about "brave, strong man who dont cry"
2006-12-19 01:11:49 · answer #5 · answered by e-pack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋