me and my ex boyfriend broke up a two year relationship a year and a half ago. we both went our separate ways (but remained friends) and started dating other people but i ended my relationship because i still had feelings for my ex. i had wrote him a letter in october saying that i was still in love with him and i want to try and work it out and then i proceeded to tell him that if i get no response i would leave him alone. i kept my word since the day i sent out the letter i havent been in contact with him. this past wednesday he came to my house to return something that i havent needed for two years and he stayed for a little while to visit. now he has done this in the past has come over to return things that i didnt even notice were missing. he went as far as coming to my house to bring me back a hairtie. do you think that he is using these things as excuses to come and see me and check up on me? please let me know what you think.....thanks
2006-12-19 00:37:38 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he is coming to see you when he is looking for a romp in the hay, or hoping for one. Looks like he is keeping score on who is doing better, you or him.
2006-12-19 00:44:07 · answer #1 · answered by e.sillery 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if yur relationship has ended then there were reasons it came to an end. Unless you have been to counselling to deal with these issues then they are always going to be there and will no doubt come back to bite you a second time. To try re-kindle something is going to cause you heart-ache.
I would leave it well alone and if you have been without him for the past year and a half then that is plenty enough time of one of you feels ending it was a mistake, but neither of you has. Until you worte him the letter.
You said you broke up and stayed friends. The liklihood is that yeah he is checking up on you, as a friend. Leave it well alone before you make things very messy.
2006-12-19 08:44:32 · answer #2 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he is using those things as an excuse. If he hasnt gave you an answer yet then try to move on. It will be hard. I am going through the same thing. I am waiting for him. We have been through so much. I know how hard it is to let go. You can hang on a little bit longer. Just dont waist your life. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-12-19 08:45:08 · answer #3 · answered by Hillary N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He ignored your e-mail, if he felt the same way as you, he would have replied.
Like other people have said - the reason he keeps coming to see you to return little things, is probably because he misses your company and wants to keep tabs on you, he's just curious about what you're up to now.
2006-12-19 08:48:57 · answer #4 · answered by Yasmin H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like a classic case of him not wanting you but also wanting to know what you are up to. He didn't want you when you wrote him that letter and chances are that he doesn't want you now.
Maybe just a little bit of him is curious as to what you have been doing, who you are dating etc but mainly just to keep tabs on you.
2006-12-19 08:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he might be doing that but keep your eyes on many things than that
2006-12-19 09:04:04 · answer #6 · answered by alexu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no use in crying over split ted milk just move on
2006-12-19 08:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by baby n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋