Any ideas for a girl to propose to her boyfriend?

Question

Looking for some ideas/opinions....I'm deeply in love with my boyfriend and have decided that this Christmas I want to ask him to marry me. I know it's not the 'traditional' way but I know he'd love it if it was me doing the asking. Obviously, men don't wear 'engagement' rings, so I was looking for any ideas about how to go about this. Can anyone help?

'Shouldn't it be the other way round?' - I don't see why it should. I am definitely not the kind of girl to sit and wait for him to do the asking, just because it's the traditional way of doing things. We've spoken about marriage before and I know that he feels the same as I do - I don't see why a man wouldn't like the idea of his girlfriend proposing to him?

Answer 1

How about buying him a ring for his other hand? Or a nice chain/watch etc (perhaps a St Christopher)? Do it the way you would like if it was him proposing to you. Go for it! Good luck - hope it goes well and he says YES!

Answer 2

If I were you, I'd wait until after Christmas. A lot of people propose at Christmas time and if you feel like you're at that stage in the relationship, he may very well be planning to do it too. He'd probably be disappointed if you beat him to it. If he doesn't, then why not ask him on New Years? At the stroke of midnight, tell him that you want to marry him in 2007. Keep it casual- guys would probably prefer a low-key thing than a big grand gesture. I'm not against the idea of women proposing, but I think it needs to be very different when proposing to men- all the traditions attached to proposing, like the ring, are for the typical scenario where men ask women so don't try to mimic that.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Hi - first up, be prepared for shock and having to convince him! Ive been with my hubby for 8 years and from year 3 to year 5 I proposed to him at least 5 times and he said no every time. Not becasue he didnt love me, but because he didnt feel ready for a marriage. I really appreciate this because if we'd have gotten married when just I was ready, I dont think it would have worked out. Dont you know that girls mature faster than boys? If hes not asked you yet, hes not ready.

HOWEVER, putting aside my pessimistic hat, if you do want to do it then Id suggest a night doing your favourite pass-time (No, not that! dirty minded people!) I meant take him to his fave restaurant, or something like that. As guys dont wear engagement rings, you could get him a ring for his other hand - my hubby has a titanium wedding band from Storm (£30! Bargain!) but its funky enough to be worn on any other finger.

Good luck, and I hope I havent put you off - just wanted to say Ive been there and done that and in the end, had to be patient! Have been married for 4 months today and am so happy! Happy Holidays chick and let us know how it goes!xx

Answer 4

First of all, if he is a traditional person, be prepared that he will not like the idea. If he is open to new things and very untraditional, they go for it.

I'd say get him a ring. Call it what it is, an engagement ring.

Also, be prepared because maybe he'll propose to you this Christmas or New Year's Eve!

Answer 5

Good Luck! I say just ask him. Make him a romantic dinner and buy him a fancy watch or a nice chain for his neck and just ask him. Start of with what you and him had talked about what kind of things you both enjoy and then just take his hand and tell him you love him and want to know is he ready to make a big step with you and then pop the question with puppy eyes letting him know your love will always be there.

Just ask, who care how people think that it is suppose to be other way. This is the modern days not the oldies. Tell him you ready.

Good luck!!!!

Answer 6

Finally a progressive woman. Since,Im a man. I would like to get a nice Military metal as a proposal thing. Not a ring so much. But, a ring is stilll fine. A collectable sword or a dagger is also fine. So is a coin ornament for a mecklace. Rare or old Comic books are fine too.

Answer 7

Now what Ive been told is that there on 1 date that a girl is aloud to propose to their boyfriend on & thats the 29th of feb so your supose to have one oportunity every 4 years but I say what the hell go for it!

Last year I took my girlfriend out for a drive it had been snowing the night be before I drove down to a lovley wee coutry area & pulled up in a nice area which had a wee lay-by Snow cover trees & the other side was a open area with a stunning clear black sky! Something as simple as goin a drive could turn out as amazing as it did for me I never expected my surrounding to look so amazing!

So my advice to you is dont go all out try something simple, & also please do it privately dont do it with spectators lol

If he wont wear a ring I recomend putting it on a chain!

All the best & Good luck I hope he says yes if you do it & if he does uz are gonna have a phenomenal next few months :-)

Answer 8

I gotta say that unless your man is in the same situation as the poster Z then i would think its a VERY bad idea.
None of us know you or the guy, so we are all just assuming. But right now i'm gonna generalize and make up a stat that 99.2% of men would not want to be proposed to.
Is part of it because of tradition? YES. I am the first to always say i hate tradition and i love change, especially for the better. But just think, this has been a tradition for a LONG time before we were born, as well as this guy's entire Life. He could be planning some big suprise for weeks on how to ask you. He may have a mini vacation already paid for to take you to his favorite place to ask you ect...Believe it or not. Guys think about stuff like that. How will i propose? just as much a girls think, Wht kind of dress do i want?
When i first met my wife, there was a day where my goal was to ask for her phone number. I was waiting for the perfect moment, but she popped the question and asked for mine. Was my pride shattered? No, did i feel like i loss some pride points? Yes.

If you Love your man, thats great, But unless hey is super shy, has been dumped harshly at the alter, and he feels that you are to good for him, then i would strongly advise that you don't.

I know it may be hard for you to understand, but thats what makes Guys & Girls different, we think differently.

Answer 9

I wasn't the type to wait either, but my fiance just proposed and it was amazing. The fact is he may be waiting to get his finances together or make it extra special. Are you sure he won't be hurt that you stole his thunder. Try and feel him out first to make sure he isn't waiting for a reason. If you still feel ready to propose get him an engagement gift. Some guys like GPS systems, the new PS3, or something else that he may like. I am actually going to give my fiance an engagement gift even though he proposed to me. Good Luck!!

Answer 10

Give him a ring any way..Be different.

Also buy him a chain so he could if he wanted put the ring on the chain and wear it around his neck.

Here are a few ideas

Strip for him then ask him
Take him out for a meal
Go to his work place with a big bunch of flowers and the ring and ask him

Do a little detective trial for him to put all the clues together (you will find out how smart he is too lol)
Take him on a hot-aired ballon ride and then ask him while your up in the air-take some champagne to celebrate afterwards.

Hope it all goes well.
God Bless