Should you sacrifice your future for love?

Question

i can rather stay in the country and be with my bf who i love with all my heart and stay at my current job that i hate, or i could go back and study! i dont know what to do!! I want to study with all my heart - dont want to end up doing what im doing right now - and i dont want to loose my bf!! which one would you sacrifice?

Answer 1

I wouldn't sacrifice my education. If I lost the b/f over that, oh well. He's not the only person in the world.

Answer 2

here's the rule I would use & this is where it would take me:

i'd say that since i'm not one hundred percent guaranteed to have my partner in my long term future but I am 100 guaranteed to deal with the results of my choices (to have a future I have to reconcile myself with) then it would be a fallacy to say that love should govern my life choices: love is less permanent than education.

if you need to study i think you can have your cake and eat it, if you move with him, you can find a new job, do an internet course or find a college or something to go to and you'll be able to share rent with him or something?

but it would be a good idea to think the way you're doing right now 'cos you want to know all your options so that'll make you a lot more comfortable with your final choice

good luck

Answer 3

No, you should not sacrifice your future, who says you can't have both, if he really loves you he will be patient and stand by you. I stayed in a dead end job for 10 years and with a bf. who later became my husband and dumped me for another woman when My children were 7 & 9 years old, whats the point of throwing your future away you dont know what the future holds there are no gurantees in life only the ones you make. I believe you can have both.

Answer 4

can't you compromise? What about a school that's in the country? Maybe you wont be doing EXACTLY what you want but you'll find a better job that you like even better without leaving ur boyfriend?! best of both worlds

if not, i'd go with your heart. If you want school and future and things like that and if u really are meant to be with this boy, then move. better yourself. HOwever, don't go if you're only going to be miserable and thinking about him the whole time. That defeats the purpose.

Answer 5

What an awful decision. The trouble is you will always think you made the wrong decision. I am tempted to say go for the studying though because it's something you always wanted to do. Can't you try a long distance relationship while you study? If you stay in a job you hate and then break up you are going to feel cheated.

Answer 6

If the options are there to study then open up that avenue. It might be best to stick with your job at the moment to make sure that studying is right for you and it's a viable option; it wouldn't be a good move to lose everything all at once. Talk to your boyfriend and see what he feels about the situation - after all he knows you better than us on here. If he feels that studying is right for you and that he'll support you through it then go for it! The decisions we make with better judgement are the right ones!

Answer 7

If you go to school in a nother country, it will be very hard for the both of you to keep your relationship...However, it's not impossible. You could go and pursue your future and still always wonder "what if" with the b/f that you care about, on the other hand if you choose to stay with him and not go to school in the other country you will always wonder "what if" or how different your life could be if you would of chosen your future.

There are many possibilities of what could and couldn't happen. And no matter who has been through what nobody can really give you advice b/c there are people who are going to support both sides which will elad you back to the same point.

In a decision like this it is important to seek the One who created You, and who knows you inside out and who knows your future. Seek God and ask Him to direct you, acknowledge Him in all of your ways and He will direct your paths. Pray and ask God for Guidance, b/c through it all He will be the only One to be there for You.

God Bless You and I trust that You will seek Him(God) and He will reveal the plan that He has for you.

Answer 8

You need to study , so you can get a terrific job. If he loves you he will understand. This is about your future. you owe it to yourself to follow your dream.
A bf could be here today and gone tomorrow, an education will take you through life and you can pick and choose where you want to live.You will be able to meet many people in the world...
Do not give up your dream of education, you will regret it for the rest of your life.
He will wait, if he doesn't want to. say good-bye... and tell him he missed out on a wonderfully smart girl. There will always be another guy out there just waiting for a very intelligent and mature person......
Good luck and get back to school.

Answer 9

once you've a threat to flow to an ivy league college, why may you sacrifice that for someone else? i recognize what it truly is opt for to be in love, yet you come back first on your lifestyles. If she loves you extremely, she will be able to attend till you get finished with college. My answer isn't any! do no longer sacrifice your coaching for a lady. it truly is incorrect.

Answer 10

maybe you don't need to scarfice anything, all you need to do is to talk to your boyfriend about it, tell him you want to go back to study and have a better job. just talk to him, and see what he says, before making your decision.

Or you could explore the opportunity of studying in the country, so you can study and be with your boyfriend at the same time.

Or if there is really no chance to study in the country, that you have to go overseas for studying, you just need to explain to your boyfriend how important that is to you, and hopefully he will understand, and be prepared to work out how to maintain a long distance relationship.

personal experience, i was in the same position as you, i was in australia staying with my boyfriend, but i was given a very good job offer overseas, so i talked to my boyfriend about taking the job (for 18 months), my boyfriend thought i had all the good reasons for taking the job offer, but the only thing is him and I won't be staying together during that time, and that was his main concern, we had disagreement about this job offer, and we broke up.

so i went overseas thinking my relationship with my boyfriend was over, but we started talking again a month after we broke up, we realised how much we loved each other and how much we want to stay with each other, so we got back together, he has been very supportive since, we keep in contacts via emails, telephones, SMS, instant messenger, and now I am going back to australia in a couple weeks.

The long wait is finally over, and I get to be with my boy forever.

Maybe it will happen to you too, just remember honey, if two people love each and wanna be with each other, they will find a way.

Good luck sugar.

Answer 11

A relationship has to be a combination of give and take, you need to both make sacrifices for each other. If studying means that much to you, he shouldn't want you to give it up for him. I suggest that you talk with him and agree on something together, there should be a way that you can combine both. Remember, if you give up one, you'll always wonder what would have happened if you chose the other.
And although i hate to be the devil's advocate, what if you chose your boyfriend, then somoething happened and you broke up. You would ahve lost 2 things important to you, and you would keep kciking yourself and wishing that you had chosen study.