This guy and i have been having a sexual relationship for the past year.. I am starting to fall for him and somehow, i feel that he too have fallen for me but perhaps due to his ego, he had to somehow let it past. He told me before he's not ready for a commitment..he wants to be alone coz of his past relationship that failed horribly about almost 3 years ago. I'd ask if he likes me and he says he' kinda does but is still not ready to commit. Should i wait for him or move on with someone else? So far, im the only woman he's intimate n close with.. I gave him chances time and again to find a new sex partner..or rather just sumone else but he decline my offer time and again..What should i do? Im confuse..
2006-12-18 23:53:02 · 27 answers · asked by MIzzMoo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Any man that turns down a relationship is looking.
I'm a man and I know that.
And since I'm in a committed relationship, I can share.
2006-12-19 00:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously is just struggling? This confuses me as well. Maybe he is telling you like it is, that he just wants no commitment....its called being a swinger or he may just be heart broken from 3 years ago, but that makes no sense either...he needs to move on and find someone else and if he is not happy with you, let him figure it out on his own so that he is happy. Time will tell what is going on. Just give it time and be his friend.
2006-12-18 23:57:16 · answer #2 · answered by kowalley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This really is up to you. I mean, it just depends on how much you're willing to either settle for or put up with.
How "DIScontented" are you with the situation? Would it be easier for you to stay or walk away? The fact that he's "saying" that he doesn't want to be tied down, but yet is explicitly w/you and no other in an intimate fashion-sounds to me like he's already in some frame of a relationship. Guys that just want pointless sex and not to be tied down DON'T just mess around w/ONE person, they have many-they play the field. The fact that he chooses to be intimate w/you and only you shows that he does have SOME regard to your relationship....he just hasn't put a "label" on it yet.
But as I said, your answer to this dilemma lies within your own level of patience and contentment.
2006-12-19 00:00:37 · answer #3 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
normally if people meet someone they fancy they do not remember about the past which was 3 years ago, and they do not make excuse of it. this was the lamest excuse for not commiting i ever heard. so i suggest like many here dump him. he is not into u, he is searching for someone else, he is keeping u as a spare tire, do u want to be the spare tire? u re losing time, u could have found someone who would appreciate u for what u re, not finding lame excuses
2006-12-18 23:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Release and let go you waisting your time and he is only using for the sex ,if it was more than that he would of let you be more than just a sex partner and started a relationship with you ,so let him go and if he really wants more than sex he Willl be back and stop having only sexual relationships you wil die alone .
2006-12-18 23:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're already aware of wasting time, I would suggest you drop the sap. If he's sexual with you but doesn't want a committment, then he's a waste of your time. You shouldn't even have spent the last year with him. Move on, and find something you enjoy doing with yourself. Quit letting men use you for sex.
2006-12-19 00:08:35 · answer #6 · answered by kari w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what r u confused about?he said he doesn't want a relationship and he's not ready to commit,sounds very clear to me.you are giving him sex and you feel some how that makes a relationship but he's telling you it doesn't.if you don't see clearly what's going on ,if you don't hear what he's saying,you'll just be in the relationship by your self in your fantasy,because he knows what he doesn't want and that's a relationship.
2006-12-19 00:04:40 · answer #7 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's making use of you. Dont make sex with him again. You are making yourself very cheap. He wants you to satisfy his pleasure only. Please understand. Why must you commit yourself to someone who's not ready to accept your love after going along with you? How much time do you need to give him? Try acting expensive and see if comes crawling to you and express his love. If he doesn't, dont waste time. I know you think it's easy for me to say this but it's for your own good.
2006-12-19 00:02:20 · answer #8 · answered by saddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't recognize. thinking we are all gonna be useless in one hundred years, each and everything we do is a waste of time. Btw, i'm the authentic president of the procrastinator's club. Or i'd be, once i'm getting round to sending my letter of popularity. sturdy success inclusive of your quiz.
2016-11-27 19:47:19 · answer #9 · answered by evert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont waste your precious time on him.He doesnt have commitment problems.Truth is that he's using you and is just not that into you.You are obviously wasting your time on him.You should drop this player and move on.Do yourself a favour by walking past him and find someone better who can give you all that love and care.
2006-12-19 00:04:45 · answer #10 · answered by Sheeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋