I cant be bothered to talk to my g/f anymore, she is so predictable. I find i have to make a massive effort just to appear interested in what she has to say. I cant be bothered to make love to her really anymore either. Am i a bad person ? - weve been going out since April this year. In the back of my mind i know we arent suited long term....
2006-12-18 23:44:03 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your relationship is normal. Women are boring. They talk about nothing for hours on end. The only reason why we listen is so that we can get laid. If you're not enjoying the sex anymore, maybe it's time to move on. If you can just have casual sex with her, it's OK.
This does not make you a bad person. She is just a boring clod. You didn't get together with her for her charming personality in the first place. Why would you expect anything else from her? If you are bored, talk to you friends. Just have sex with her.
2006-12-18 23:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You answered your question yourself.
Not every relationship will be long term. There are some people who are not just very exciting and never venture out in to the other zones of life. They like to play it safe, it might have had something to do with their childhood experiences with their family.
If you feel this way towards Her you must be honest and forthright and tell her you are breaking it off.
People loose interest in people who are boring, but they also loose interest in people who are not growing as a person. You have probably gone through some personal growth or matured past her, your interests could have changed, you might have had a break through with a job and are more keen to pursue a dream. There could be many possibilities, but the important thing is you have moved on.
Please tell her as soon as possible, so that you both can move forth in your lives.,
2006-12-18 23:52:55 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is unhappy too, but hasn't had the confidence to say anything yet. Why not stop the suffering now for yourself and eventually her? There is no point if you genuinely have no interest in her anymore. You're not a bad person to think of ending a relationship because you are no longer happy, but be prepared, she may think nothing was wrong,so have your story ready to tell her, be firm but kind. Good luck
2006-12-18 23:50:11 · answer #3 · answered by Need_to_know 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's over. You're not a bad person. That's what going out with people is all about, shopping for THE one that will last a lifetime. You'll go out with a lot of women before you find her. Tell her how you feel though. It will hurt her more in the long run if you don't let her know it's over.
2006-12-18 23:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant control your feelings can you, you obviously made some effort and now you have lost interest in her, BUT by not tellin her the truth is making you into a bad person, you need to tell her how you feel to stop the relationship continuing!
2006-12-19 01:21:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are tormenting yourself and her when you need not...i dont think you are a bad person...sometimes it takes time to figure these things out thats all...but if you feel that you are just going through the motions and you aren't suited long term...best to make the break sooner rather than later...you know best of all how you feel...but she may feel differently and dealing with this now could save you both a world of hurt later...hope this helps...;0)
2006-12-19 01:16:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not like you are married and need to make an effort to keep the marriage together! You're dating. Do her and yourself a favor and end the relationship so that you can both find someone that you want to be with.
2006-12-18 23:46:58 · answer #7 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you ask if you're a bad person, that suggests a feeling of guilt on your part. Did you get involved with this person because you cared for her, or for sex? Most likely, it was for sex; and those relationships are never long lasting. In fact, you'll never develop a long-term relationship, until you learn to see females as people and not sex objects.
2006-12-18 23:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you know you two aren't long term material then end it now before you realize your married and still unhappy. If you don't like the idea of breaking it off tell her how you feel. The worst thing that can happen is that you two break up but you can try to repair your relationship
2006-12-19 09:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by bandbunny27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wot date in April??because i got with my girlfriend on the 10 of April last year and we find something new to talk about everyday!and iv never passed up making love with her. maybe your just tired of her and you'd like a new girl in your life?and i know 8 months seems a life time but if you look back at it and think to yourself how much fun you had wit her and all good times maybe you ll find things to talk about and have a laugh?
2006-12-18 23:50:13 · answer #10 · answered by Aaron O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋