My ex-girlfriend doesnt call me and I am always calling her. We are trying to see if we can get back together. She tells me that she is caught up with these entry exams into grad school and that its not what she is use too so she really wants to focus. I am trying to be supportive and patient. But I cant seem to understand why she cant call me for 5 mins or text me something to show she still cares. She tells me she loves me and we are intimate when we see each other even though we are not together anymore. Is she really just to caught up with school to even notice me? what do u ladies think? I appreciate all the help i can get because i love her and want to believe she still wants me back. We have been going out for a year and few months. We broke up for a month now.
2006-12-18 23:23:08 · 15 answers · asked by J Z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
in these situations, the more you call her, the more you will drive her away.. if you want to win her back, you need to come across as cool and aloof and as someone who doesn't give a crap about having a relationship with her.. hang out with friends, date another girl, etc... if she ever calls and offers to do something, don't be too eager! act like you have to check your schedule and maybe respond with "I'm busy at that time, but maybe another time".. that will show her that you're not totally dependent upon her for your social life..
2006-12-18 23:28:07 · answer #1 · answered by Byakuya 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've only been broken up for a month. Try giving her some distance. It's quite possible you are driving her batty by calling all the time. It makes you seem very needy and needy is not attractive. If she's the independent type you will drive her away by getting on her nerves with your dependcy. Find something else to focus on.
2006-12-19 08:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by Laoshu Laoshi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, how can she focus on her entrance exams if you keep calling her and bugging her? If you were trying to be supportive and patient, you'd leave her alone until exams are over. If she still wants to get back with you, you'll hear from her after things have settled down. Relax. If things don't work out after exams are over, move on.
2006-12-19 07:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by Eat At The Y 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure but if I am not calling back or not even try to talk to you on the phone then you can be sure, that I dont wanna talk to you at all...or that I have something else in mind was is more important to me in this moment than to call you...but thats just me,I don't know what your ex-gf is thinking..maybe it is just the exams but maybe not...
2006-12-19 07:31:01 · answer #4 · answered by silket23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has lost interest in you and seeking other waters, she doesn't want to hurt you, by coming right to the point. Also she is so sure of you and that is a turn off. Stop calling for awhile and she'll wonder what's up and don't be surprised if you hear from her. Most of us want what we can't have, don't make yourself so available, no matter how difficult for you, you may be surprised. Don't be a wimp, that is a major turn off....
2006-12-19 07:38:23 · answer #5 · answered by brown eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her the time she needs. She may need this time to study because entry exams can be quite hectic. You sound like you are very much in love with her,show her by trusting her and give her space.
2006-12-19 07:31:39 · answer #6 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmm. ok. heres what i think of ur situation. there is no doubt that she likes u mann. BUT ur not her #1 priority. and this doesnt look good for you, bcuz u made her ur NUMBER WUN [get it?] and yeahh. u guyz are broekn up but want to get back together. it takes two to tango. and...shes not tangoing. so actually go in person to visit her or something. and just ask her whats wrong. how come she cant call or say something to u. and just resolve it... in person..without making love or intamicy
2006-12-19 07:27:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is trying to tell you that she wants to focus on other things, but you are not letting her by calling all the time.
I think it's time for you to move on.
2006-12-19 07:26:56 · answer #8 · answered by pink.vixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's afraid to tell you that she's over you. She doesn't want to hurt your feelings. It sounds very much like a one-way relationship; you're doing all the work and she's doing none. Stop communicating with her and see if she tries to contact you instead. If she does, you've got a chance. If she doesn't, it sounds like it's over.
2006-12-19 07:30:14 · answer #9 · answered by Renee C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her space and see if it works out let her know that you support her and her future by letting her have time to study or even offer to help if you can.
2006-12-19 07:30:16 · answer #10 · answered by space case 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋