Im a 28 year old female who wants to become a mum,im in a same sex relationship and my partner doesn't want any kids but i do,i love kids and always love taking out my nephew when i get the chance.I don't know what to do,do i stay with my partner?or move on and find someone that wants kids?
2006-12-18 23:03:42 · 14 answers · asked by half pint 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Find someone else who wants children too, otherwise you will be miserable.
2006-12-19 00:06:06 · answer #1 · answered by Urchin 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
kids are over rated... HA - kidding.
I am a single mother of 1 FABULOUS 10 year old son, and think he is the best thing I ever did. I love kids!
Having a child is a personal choice. If you want to have a child and can support and love this child, then you should definitely have one. And even though having a 2 parent family is nice, so many single parents do a much better job than half of the 2 parent family's out there. At 28, you still have time to make the decision, so don't rush it. But don't cheat yourself out of the experience because of your partner. If you want children and your partner doesn't, then you really need to find a new partner. If not you will resent them down the line for making you give up on your dream of becoming a mother.
2006-12-19 12:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by badneighborvt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if being a mum is something that is really important to you that you would end up resenting your partner at some point if you never had kids then you owe it to both of you to sit down together and talk about it....not necessarily to change her mind but to explain your feelings and why you do have to move on with your life and walk away from her and the relationship....but I think you already know that you need to find somebody else that wants to have children too....good luck and being a mum is a wonderful thing to be
2006-12-19 09:34:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to think long and hard because later on in life will you despise your partner if you do not have kids, or when your clock has stopped kicking and your partner and you do not work out and you still yearn for kids but its too late.
I think if you want kids and your partner doesn't as much as you love them why should you miss out on being a parent because they don't want kids. You may love them with all of your heart and them the same to you but do you think its fair that because they don't want children you miss out. Unless your partner changes their mind I would consider moving on otherwise you may regret it later on.
2006-12-19 07:10:16 · answer #4 · answered by shellhiggs07 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey, first of all, I am really sorry to hear ur problems..true is it..some men don't want child in their life..though some does, it is sorrowful that ur partner isn't that kinda man... but anyhow, if u decided really to face this problem and if u really do want children...( I mean firstly, I'd like to urge u to consider once more again about ur desire..I mean having a child to care for is not an easy thing to handle..u have to scarifice some of ur time which u can enjoy alone or with ur friends or even with ur partner..u have to face some difficulties probably and u have all the responsibilities for the child... But if u have a child, holding him or her in your arms , hugging the child, feeling his or her warm breath...it's a miracle, u know... ( Actually I am a man and also absolutely not a gay...I know this since I was a doctor and while I was studying or working in the hospital, I met with so many mothers and I came to know some of their feelings concerning with the pregnancy and having a child...)
After u decide, ( and if u think that u really want a child ) plz tell directly to ur partner..how it means to u..how much u want a child, how ur dreams about the child and your future, how u love him and want a child with him...Plz be gentle in doing so ( some of the man get shock if u tell about that suddenly to them ) and make him understand what u want and how much u love him... if he loves u also ( in the way u love him ), he will understand ur feelings and desire... if not, ( sorry to say ) then there is no other way but to break up with him and find another man who loves and want to settle with u for the rest of his life..
Anyhow, I really wish u good luck!!
2006-12-19 07:24:22 · answer #5 · answered by Blue P 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do you want your own kids or do you wish to adopt kids. Either way its your choice. Children provide the greatest joy in the world and in some ways give direction & purpose in your life. If you love kids - then by all means plan for one. If your partner dis-agrees, then she is not the right one for you.
2006-12-20 06:45:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
would u rather have a child or your partner?
think carefuly because if u stay with her u may have hidden anger knowing that shes the reason u dont have a child, which may split u up in the long run anyway.
talk to her about why she doesnt want a child, tell her how important it is to u.
i would consider leaving her because u may end up hating her since she took away the one thing u wanted!!
and IF you do have a child together because u want one, that may not work either, to have a child u have to actually WANT one and be prepared for the sleepless nights etc.
ur partner may see it as a big mistake and not really want the child, just putting up with it for your sake!
2006-12-19 07:20:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The main thing you need to figure out is what matters more to you; your current partner or being a mother.
Also you need to evaluate how compatable the two of you really are if you have a passion for being a parent and she has absolutely no interest.
2006-12-19 07:13:06 · answer #8 · answered by Sweets 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It up to you. I got little bit confused, you are in a same sex relationship and you partner doesn't want any kids? how can you produce kids with same sex?
Better find someone qualified to do so and be natural
2006-12-19 13:13:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if u know having a child is something u really want than i would tell u to find a new partner. its important when u r in a rltp that u and your significant other r on the same page about issues such as financial and family planning.
2006-12-19 07:30:06 · answer #10 · answered by Miki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋