i thought he is like my grand father!!i was too nice & gentle!!i offered as much help as i can!!he helped me too in my college!!then he gave me a well covered novel!!when i opened it i discovered its a very very romantic dirty one!!i hated that man really from that moment!!i want to reject him gentelly without being rude!!what can i do?
2006-12-18 22:55:30 · 14 answers · asked by donia f 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can mail the book back to him, or throw it out if you don't want the trouble of mailing. Do not write him any letters or notes.
You don't have to talk to him. If he is still helping you in college, you may have to figure out how to get through college without his help. If this man also knows your parents or other family members, you should definitely discuss this with your family.
If this man is a person that you come across in your neighborhood, if he tries to make conversation with you, tell him straight that you are not interested in his attention, and you are not friends. Then walk away.
He should get the point and leave you alone. If he persists, seek advice from your family, but don't interact with him. If you are still in college, you might be able to discuss this with a student counselor. If the man is persistent and you feel the situation is getting more difficult, you could go to a police station and discuss it with police.
2006-12-18 23:10:25 · answer #1 · answered by old c programmer 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can actually tell him frankly but politely that you do not like the novel he gave you and that it lost all respect you had for him and do not want to have any thing more to do with him.. Let him understand that as a young girl you would want younger men around you rather than a grandparent or a grand old man.
Tell him his continued chasing you so you say would be construed as an abuse on your person and your dignity. And that if he wants you to respect him some more, he should stop disturbing you.
I think he is open minded enough to wake up and understand your side. And if he is a gentleman, he will respect your dicision even if it hurts his ego.
2006-12-18 23:03:46 · answer #2 · answered by yulnores 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
purely tell him he's purely too old and which you're no longer a hoe. If that would not artwork, report him on your employer, i'm specific they have some coverage against harassment and in the event that they do no longer the police do.
2016-10-18 11:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to be rude to get him off you but you can be really and totally firm in your stand. So tell him gently but firmly that you simply cannot go out with him - You Dont Have To Give Him Any Reasons. You are your own person and know what you want without his permission or approval. Take k
2006-12-18 22:59:17 · answer #4 · answered by girlfunny 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Return the dirty novel with a polite but distant "you must have given me the wrong book. Thank you for thinking of me."
2006-12-18 22:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
he helped you through college and you can't stand him well we see how far gratitude gos now don't we and just because he gave you a "dirty book " what was it playgirl ? nope sorry that is a magazine maybe he asked a clerk at the bookstore what was popular with women in your age group has he made any other " advances " ? maybe you should be sure of the facts first and if he finds you attractive so what when you are his age I bet you will look at the younger guys !!!
2006-12-18 23:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
poor girl.
I guess you now know why they say "No free lunch"
genthly tell him that you perceive him as a fatherly figure and have no romantic inclination towards him cause you are not comfortable with the age difference.
You can e-mail him or give him a phone call (if you're not comfortable telling him in person)
good luck.
2006-12-18 22:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by venom! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have all this hate for him, its better and more effective to face him with realty, shorter route is the truth give it to him plain and direct, don't even hesitate...you don't want to wait to get the next covered gift
2006-12-18 23:00:45 · answer #8 · answered by Louy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay away from Him, He is a dirty old man.
2006-12-18 22:57:52 · answer #9 · answered by Janice 10 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Make him irritated by talking about your grandfather. Indirectly, say how he remind you of your grandfather. Stay with your frens and ignore him as far as you can.
2006-12-18 23:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by saddy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋