we are gay couple and have been together for four years we have decided to get married but not sure where to start or how to tell the parents need some advice?
2006-12-18 22:46:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I want to start out by saying Congrats to you. The first thing you should do is either hire a wedding planner, or if your doing it on your own..... Budget!!! budget is the first thing I stress to couples about to get married. Then once you know aprox. how much you want to spend...... find a location. Locations can sometimes be pretty tricky to get. Especially if it is in a popular season... and a popular area for events. So make sure to put all of that into consideration, and then from there start by catering, outfits, and cakes. ........ To answer you 2 ? if you two want to get married start planning it out... and then go to your parents saying that your go to get married and the 2 of you have been seriously working on this for quite some time. I think the more that they know your serious about it.... the better it would be for them... make sure that the wedding isn't until later.. to let them have time to accept if they need accepting.I hope I could help you guys. If your not going to hire a wedding planner, the best thing to do then is buy maybe 2 books on wedding planning and ideas. I'm a wedding planner in training.... so I know the books are a whole lot better then the mags... and sometimes dare I say the internet. But Congrats again... and I hope you have a very Happy Holiday!
2006-12-19 00:34:44 · answer #1 · answered by S-Darcy-81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! I'm so happy for you. My advice to you is to tell your parents first. I suggest you tell each set of parents separately with your fiance so they can express how they feel freely. If they object SO WHAT!!! I know they are your parents but they aren't you. You are marrying the woman of your dreams. You are marrying the person not the family and although family blessings are nice they aren't necessary. Next decide on what type of wedding, where, when, how much, and who is invited.
www.theknot.com
www.weddingchannel.com
www.brides.com
all of these are great sites to get started. The knot also provides great advice on how to break the news to your parents. Good Luck and I hope you found what you are looking for
2006-12-19 13:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out which states recognize gay marriages and pick one together. Maybe you can make it a destination wedding. I told my parents that I was engaged over the phone one night (and I was so nervous, which is so stupid). They'll be happy that you are going to be happy. Start with the things about the wedding that are important to you. Everything else will fall into place from there.
2006-12-19 16:50:36 · answer #3 · answered by orangeflameninja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the best way to get into a marraige is for one party to get pregnant. I see how that would be a problem in your case...
Alternatively speak to both parents individually starting with the one who is less difficult. If you're going to be a gay couple then you will be ostracised anyway by society at large (unless you live in a Hollywood movie) so starting with your parents may be a good place.
Good Luck.
2006-12-19 06:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Planning an event like this gay or straight is stressful. I suggest you make all of your plans prior to telling anybody. First, you need to decide where you will marry-keep in mind you have limited options with this-once you decide where you can decide who you want to attend and all the details. Once it is all ironed out then you can tell them or after the wedding if you fear they will only cause strife. Congrats!
2006-12-19 06:49:51 · answer #5 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents. Then later on when you have decided on a date, arrange for families to get together, normally for dinner so they can meet.
Then hire a planner or do things yourself.
* Dont put up with narrow mindedness, unique is what makes thing beautiful!
2006-12-19 09:17:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely love http://www.theknot.com it is a great site with lots of information. Guest list, budget planning tool, etc.
Then there is also the "find the state that believes anyone should be allowed to marry" portion of this particular engagement.
Another good site is http://www.weddingsolutions.com .
Congrats!
2006-12-19 09:33:47 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you fingd out her ring size then you sholud find a ring she likes for an engagement ring and you plan a night of romance and then you should pop the question
2006-12-19 11:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by shoe_gal28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about marriage if it's difficult to convince the parents.
2006-12-19 06:50:58 · answer #9 · answered by saddy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wedding planner
2006-12-19 06:52:36 · answer #10 · answered by nida_ng2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋