2006-12-18 22:39:59 · 24 answers · asked by stevefrmoz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
that is a 3 to 4 year age gap.... not a lot really..
yes she is still a minor in the eyes of the law as far as a sexual relationship goes until she turns 16, (presuming you are in Australia). Sit down with your daughter and talk openly and encourage her to talk openly about her relationship with this boy. Ask her what she likes about him, what she thinks he likes about her, talk to her about sex and what that means for her... ask her how she feels about sex and be very straight forward and dont fuss or make judgements.... the idea behind this conversation is to establish some cooomunication with her about relationship and let her know you do understand what it means to be 15 and to have a boyfriend...and that it is okay for her to talk to you about it all.....
Dont threaten the boyfriend... dont say you will have him throw in jail.. dont threaten to ground her for life.... be sane sensible and mutually respectful....
It is true she hasnt much experience with relationshhip but that is because of her age and it is true no one has much experience of relationships until they have them.... be patient and let her know you are there for her while she is stepping out into this scary place called relationship...
2006-12-19 07:26:43 · answer #1 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even though 15 to 18 is only three years, there is a whole lot of difference in mind frame in that time. I would really sit down with her and talk to her about why you are unhappy. Compromise if nothing else. They can be friends, she is not getting into a car with him or anyone else at 15. He comes to your house, not in her bedroom and only with the parents home. IF they don't follow your guidelines, no go. I would also think about getting your daughter some condoms and a form of birth control to keep with her. Not saying it is okay and it is considered statutory rape, I would remind her about that, but if anything does happen you want her prepared.
2006-12-18 22:50:12 · answer #2 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get to know this guy she is seeing and be closer to ur daughter. be a part of her life and let her know that u will always be there for her no matter what happens, and that if ever the guy laid a finger on her to abuse her or hurt her in any way u will be there to protect her. once u know you can trust ur daughter and she knows u will be there for her, she will be more open with u and this will help u in knowing what is happening in this relationship. the next thing is to invite this boy over to ur hse and get to knwo the boy. u never know u might just realize that this boy isnt there just for sex and that he truly cares for your daughter. have him over at the house while ur around rather then allowing her to go off with him, have a curfew that he must know he must meet or they will be punished , for example not letting them see each other for a couple of days. the only way to handle this situation right now is to try to accept and understand that this might be ur daughter's first crush/love and that she must learn on her own by sometimes making her own mistakes. therez only so much u can tell her and advise her on. the best way isnt to forbid her from seeing this boy bcause god knows what she'll do to work her way around things just to meet him. be a part of her life and get to know the boy. good luck.
2006-12-18 22:51:01 · answer #3 · answered by julia e 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when i first started dating my boyfriend i was 16 and he was 25, he was a friend of a neighbour and when my parents found out they were so mad they forbade me to see him, fearing i would drop out of school and end up being a blugger, 2 months later i moved out of home to live him. It took me a year to speak to my parents again. To every ones surprise we are still together today, with a beautiful baby daughter, a college degree and a high paying job. My advice to you is have faith in you daughters judgement- this might only last a few weeks or he may turn out to be her soul mate- but it's her mistake to make, just make sure you are there to catch her if she falls!!
2006-12-18 22:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by danie_190805 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may have one of two options. She is under age and he is 18, you can call the cops on him but mostly they will just tell him to stop seeing her. Unless her and him are going to admit to doing something they are not suppse to be doing. Which i dought either of them will do.
Or you could get him alone and scare the crap out of him telling him you are going to make him disapear if he does not stop seeing you daughter.
Both options are not good and mostly will make your daughter hate you. If you can live with the hate for a while cause she will get over it. Then do what you think is best.
2006-12-18 23:15:17 · answer #5 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you her dad? These days what can you do? although its a bit young to be in a relationship there are some girls getting pregnant at 14 and they look around 18years old! If youre worried about that happening, ensure contraceptives. its happening ukno? and tell the dude to move on.
2006-12-18 22:50:46 · answer #6 · answered by saynhope 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take control. you are the father, she is the child. too many parents want to be their kid's "friend", when they really need the parent. explain to your daughter and the boyfriend if necessary what your feelings are and why you are telling her she can't see him, and explain he's too old for her (at least right now). then if she or the boy want to get pissy, it's time to take some action. you can't control the boy, but you can control your daughter, and her privileges. start eliminating things from her life that mean something to her until you get to something that hurts her. explain that you don't want to do this, that you want her to be happy, etc, but 18 is too old for her right now. don't be afraid to take this on.
2006-12-18 22:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by kayzee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
gun, bullet, aim, shoot, its simple as that. I would kill someone like that. If my daughter was 17 and the guy was 18 and he was a gentleman then it would not be so bad, but the fact that he is so much older is a no, no. There are laws against it, nothing good can come from it, you are the parent so put the smack down on her, and just remember shoot to kill, wounding him will do you no good.
2006-12-18 22:53:15 · answer #8 · answered by sincity usa 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have the cops stop by his house and start asking questions on just how far their dates are going and how long the loser will survive prison then see just how far and fast the bastach will run also have a talk to your local DA about scumbags running around trying to take advantage of young girls make a nuisance of yourself get him run out of town lots of people believe the same way if we don't stay quiet they won't get away with it !!!
2006-12-18 22:59:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
If that 18/19y old guy treats her in a good way and she is conviced by him,then i guess there is no problem with that.But if he treats her awfully and abuse her then u shall warn her,if she still loves him then i guess u have to see dr.Phill.
2006-12-18 22:45:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋