ive bin with my bf for 2 years now...he makes me cry all the time..every nite he doesnt msg me tellin me his credits has finished when i ask him how come he says dont know...bt i just know that he is talkin to sum1 else...i dont know what to do..ive asked him and he said stop being so silly about stuff and i got upset tellin him how bad he always makes me cry i told him ill call ur ex gf now and find out he got upset so he said just buzz off:S
its hard for me not to call him or ask about him...after he said to buzz off i told him i wil but after 2 hrs i called him...and i just mailed him ...
what can i do? how can i stop askin about him...coz i know if u step back than he ll cool down and fix the problem bt i cant step back:S thats a real big issue for me..
help me...and how can i know if he is cheatin or not?
2006-12-18 22:30:22 · 14 answers · asked by sara07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First I'm not sure how old you are but you sound pretty young and inexperienced ~ you are doing nothing but pushing if you haven't already push this guy away from you...you have security issues which you need help in resolving or you will never have anyone because you will always be suspicious of them!! Secondly if you have someone in your life thats always making you unhappy why would or should you want to be with them, I don't know about you but being happy far out weighs having someone that is constantly making you feel down, life is to good and their are too many other opportunities than to sit around and worry about something you pretty much know isn't working out, find something else to occupy your mind and time....LOVE YOURSELF FIRST!!!!
2006-12-18 22:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by flagirl40 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you can't find out if he's cheating by asking him, and I've come to realize that when a guy cheats and he's confronted he either gets really upset o he's nonchalant. Look, if your bf is making you cry EVERYnight, then he is surely not the one for you and the longer you stay the more hurt you'll end up. If you feel that if you laid off all the uestioning then he'd make it better than try it out and se if it works. Maybe you should suggest that the two of you need a break and see his reaction!
2006-12-18 22:41:26 · answer #2 · answered by Crazed Chica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so hung up on somebody that doesn't make you happy? You need to believe that you deserve to be happy and be with someone who will call you and not make you cry all the time. I would spend less time focusing on this guy and start paying attention to myself. Learn how to love yourself and belief yourself worthy of better guys, there are better guys out there. After two years I think you have probably lost yourself and become a half of a couple. You need to find your identity again and recognize that something that doesn't make you happy is not worth your time. Good luck!
2006-12-18 22:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by noelis12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a really unhealthy situation. If he makes you cry all the time, you have got to stop this. You are upsetting yourself about him the entire time. It won't matter what he does, where he goes, you will always be wondering what he's doing. There is no trust here at all.
I don't know if it's justified or not, but regardless, you will continue to go in circles. Unless you constantly investigate, I don't know if you'll find proof he is cheating. But is that how you wish to live?
If he is brushing you off, or distancing himself and if it's behaviour out of the ordinary, then yes something is going on. But driving yourself crazy about it is not going to help. You have got to somehow be upfront with him, sit down with him face to face and tell him what's on your mind (instead of hounding him with little messages). Give the messages and emailing a total break. This is irritating for him and trust me, it'll drive him away.
Give him a break and resist all urges to contact him, even if you feel it's driving you nuts. Then let him contact you and when he does, meet him face to face and chat and be as upfront and mature about it as you can.
If his behaviour continues? Then leave him. I know you're heartbroken and it hurts like hell, but this is a TOXIC relationship at this point. You are going to seriously screw yourself up. Don't be paranoid about him, but don't put up with any crap. If you sincerely feel that his behaviour is different and it's unnerving you, you will need to face off with him and if he cannot give you any clear ideas or explanations or if he keeps fobbing you off, then seriously back off and get out, or it will continue.
2006-12-18 22:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by Gus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey,
You have to find the wherewithal to end this relationship. If he makes you feel like you're dying inside, why do you want to be with him? Love isn't supposed to make you feel bad, its supposed to make you feel good, and safe and secure. You aren't exactly emanating these emotions.
If you think he is cheating, he probably is. There is no easy way to say that. People who love you don't tell you to buzz off. If he's defensive about his ex-girlfriend, there is probably a good reason.
You have to stop calling him, stop e-mailing him, stop being there for this jerk. You deserve better. Much, much better. You have to break off with him. You can get through it, I know its hard, but you must stay strong. Good luck.
2006-12-18 22:38:08 · answer #5 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust yourself. women are very good at "gut feelings". before you get in a relatioship you need to love yourself. guys usually like a girl who is completely dependent on them. If you love youself others (not everyone but others) will love you 2. if you think hes cheatin then he isnt worth your time. if he told you to buzz off then again he isnt worth the time OR the tears. my best advice is to sit down with a friend and let everything spill out. all the tears all the anger, EVERYTHING! it will help. then after letting go of all those bottled up feelings it will be easier to get your self-esteem back up! GOOD LUCK
-ASH
2006-12-18 22:46:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, Don't be so hard on yourself, You got to stop that crying because that don't do you any good or your boyfriend. He needs you to be strong and to trust him. Can't you ring someone else or do something other than wait on him all the time.
Get out there girl and have some fun, treat yourself out with the girls. If he is doing that, well hey girl you can to.
Try and stay astep ahead and keep your pretty head up girl.
2006-12-18 22:40:44 · answer #7 · answered by saynhope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some therapy. Some self esteem would help you. You should love yourself and then you would know how to be treated. Would you treat yourself this way? If so? Grow up some. You don't need the stress. Life is way toooooo short.
2006-12-18 22:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he makes me cry all the time.......................WOAH, stop right there. Nobody, I mean Nobody makes you cry unless they hurt you physically or emotionally and in this case it sounds emotional and that is a sign of weakness on your part. Kick that bad habit of thing called HUMAN to the curb. Get your life back, and never let anyone put you in that position again.
2006-12-18 22:34:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They said action speak louder than words. Trust your intuition, women are good at it. I also learned from past experience that if a guy do love their girls, they never sit in a corner....they always will do something to make their women feel loved.
2006-12-18 22:34:22 · answer #10 · answered by pretty me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋