I've been in a long distance relationship for about 3 1/2 years. He's in the military, and so we're apart a lot. Out of the 3 years we've been together, we've only physically been in the same state, less than half of that time. My boyfriend is 21 and I'll be turning 22 soon. We'll the guy I've been seeing is 24, and hot! Anyway, we've slept together a few times now. I'm starting to fall for him, and he's keeps questioning my intentions with him, and my relationship with my boyfriend. Now it may be just lust, but I feel stuck b/c I don't want to leave my boyfriend (atleast not right now) b/c he is about to leave the country again and I don't want that to be on his mind. I love my boyfriend, but I really kind of want my freedom. I feel like I owe it to myself to see what else is out there. But then the guy I've been seeing is muslim, and I'm christian. So I'm thinking should I risk my relationship to be with this guy where it doesn't seem likely to last? Find someone else or stick out?
2006-12-18 22:21:09 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump your boyfriend and get the other guy... You obviously can't be trusted to be loyal...
2006-12-18 22:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
The question should never be should I leave guy A for guy B. never. You are either happy with your boyfriend or not but if you truly loved your boyfriend you wouldn;t have been out with your pants off a few times with a guy you weren;t even sure if you really had a connection with. The distance excuse is useless with me. My fiance is very far away and very often and neither of us cheats because we love each other. Do your boyfriend a favour and tell him what you did. He deserves to know the truth. You are making excuses not to tell him.After you tell him don;t jump into the other guys arms either. Spend some time enjoying your freedom or a few years from now you will feel the same way except with a different boyfriend.
2006-12-18 22:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont tell him until he gets back. When I was in Iraq my stbx wife was cheating on me and it was worse than being over there. My friends died, I was in some serious fire fights but the only thing I could think of was my wife screwing around. It eats at yu like cancer.
Stop with the christian thing. You give christianity a bad name. Yeah everybody messes up in one way or another. You posted you slept with this other guy "a couple of times." Well one time was too much.
As a soldier, you disgust me. As a man, you disgust me. As a soon to be divorcee, you disgust me.
Probably one of the lowest things anyone in a relationship can do is cheat when your significant other is in harms way!!
2006-12-18 22:50:49 · answer #3 · answered by thrylz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ugh. adult males! they are all of the comparable! If I have been a guy i could sense horribly responsible. i've got additionally examine that maximum adult males get very suspicious of their female chum and grow to be greater preserving. i think via fact they are cheating, they think of that their companion could cheat too. that's regularly no longer the case via fact women human beings rock at existence. adult males do no longer. Nough suggested!
2016-12-15 04:07:45 · answer #4 · answered by kull 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your bf what's been going on b/c it's unfair to leave him in the dark about this! You should leave the other guy alone too b/c if you cheated on your bf with him, you'll probably cheat on him with another guy! My advice is that you take time and evaluate yourself and see what it is that you really want so that you don't keep cheating!
2006-12-18 22:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by Crazed Chica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be fair to everyone involved including yourself to be cheating means the relationship with the boyfriend is over anyway even if you hadnt fallen for the new one so first call it off with him and allow him to be free to find someone who appreciates him then trya nd work out if the relationship with the new one is worth pursuing if not stay single play the field and enjoy yourself till you find the right one !!!
2006-12-18 22:28:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not...Are you crazy muslim! Dude you need to to get away from the muslim not only get away but run...As for your real boyfriend you owe to him to tell him before he leaves the country your true feelings, its hard but its the best move for each party involved here.
2006-12-19 05:16:53 · answer #7 · answered by Jerad T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't u think u are being carried away?, well to be honest, it takes one to be faithful to stay in a long distance relationship, and it will be beta to call off the long distance relationship and concentrate on the one that is closer, I guess u are hot too and would want somebody to be with u
2006-12-18 22:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by jus wanna know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one. So I am going to suggest you take the cowards way out and cheat. If you find your self following for someone else besides your boyfriend than put distance between the two of you.
If you want to have some fun while your man is off fighting in a war than hey do what makes you happy. Just remember their are consequence for your actions.
2006-12-18 22:25:28 · answer #9 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
why do you tell us your a christian your christian morals are not showing very well today stop cheating no relationship is ever gonna be worth anything if it starts with cheating .
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2006-12-18 22:28:58 · answer #10 · answered by PETER J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend is also living away from me...really away and i see him just 2 months a year.so you can imagine my frustration!!!
but i didn't cheated yet,it's really hard so that i understand you did it.
but if you still love your boyfriend or if you just still respect him, be honest with him, tell him the truth.
but don't do anything unless you're sure that you're in love with the other one.
2006-12-18 22:26:53 · answer #11 · answered by orient princess 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋