I've just come home from a work Christmas party, at the start of the day, a work collegue asked if I had a ride to the function, I replied no, We made wishy washy plans and decided to catch a cab in, between phone conversations I had spoken to another collegue he said that he would be more than happy to give me a lift & not her. I descretly went back to the other collegue and she got really upset and was quiet abusive. (I had only started in this position 2 months ago.) I told her that she was in no position to put me down. However she has now created a huge drama & everyone knows about it including my employer. I tried confronting the situation and now she is really nasty. I really don't know how to confront this lady as I now feel rather insecure of my position as I've just started. Everyone agrees that she is in the wrong. What should I do to better this arrangement?
2006-12-18 22:18:30 · 9 answers · asked by Realness 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Nobody has the right to be abusive, especially over something that trivial. I would keep as quiet as possible and let her drama play out---reason being it'll make her and only her look like a whiny drama queen. Your quietness will amplify her idiocy AND the other folks will definitely stand up for you (seems they already have too!)
2006-12-19 00:19:04 · answer #1 · answered by Danagasta 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you get involved at all? Etiquette is about making other people as comfortable as possible, no matter the situation. The colleague didn't create the drama; you did. I'm sorry, but that's the truth. You can fix this if you apologize, and just say that you were in the wrong. That doesn't mean you have to be best friends with her; just tell her that you acted wrongly, and you recognize that you put her into a bad situation. She may very well be an ally later, regardless of what your other colleagues say.
In general, it's bad practice to be a willing or unwilling participant in office politics or drama, especially in your first few months in a new situation.
2006-12-19 01:59:38 · answer #2 · answered by rhetorica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus' beginning has not some thing to do with Christmas activities. That should not be a determining element. A Christmas get at the same time is basically social activities. An excuse for human beings to get at the same time and luxuriate in themselves. once you will be phony at a Christmas get at the same time be phony in any respect activities. do exactly not bypass.
2016-11-30 23:02:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are the one who was wrong. You shouldn't have made plans with one person, only to cancel those when a better offer came along.
I don't know what form her "abuse" was.
But you should apologize to her for your lack of consideration. Then move on, be an upstanding person and don't make the same mistake again.
2006-12-19 00:44:35 · answer #4 · answered by mrssamikeyp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing, and try to keep away from this Coworker in the future if this is at all possible. It sounds like she is known as a trouble maker.
2006-12-18 23:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, this looks worse on her than it does with you. Dont worry too much about it. If she gets worse, have a word with your employer about it.
2006-12-20 12:16:34 · answer #6 · answered by Minerva 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slide off your back. Let it go. It's just noise being made by a loud person.
2006-12-18 22:26:09 · answer #7 · answered by shire_maid 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to better this argument is to let it go......the more you stir it ...the more it will stink.
2006-12-19 00:35:33 · answer #8 · answered by Blondie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away.
2006-12-18 22:22:55 · answer #9 · answered by lindakflowers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋