My sweet Mom passed away on October 9th 2006, I'm having the hardest time dealing with this, Im not angry over her death she lived a good long life I was with her when she passed away at home.... she was 90 years old, I took care of her the last 3 years of her life, I guess I just miss her so much, and Christmas was her favorite holiday it just adds to the sadness.....I know this isnt a question, I guess I just needed to write it down....Thanks for reading
2006-12-18 21:23:32 · 25 answers · asked by well_hell_is_this_name_taken 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My Mom was put in the nursing home a year ago. She has alzheimers. I'm expercing a lot of grief and depression as well. It's been quite difficult for me lately.
I hope we both get through it okay. I guess we should just count our blessings and enjoy what we have. Good luck to you.
2006-12-18 23:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by SheRa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am Soooooooooooooooooooooooo sorry for your loss! I lost my dad in 1977, and my dearest mom in 1979. My dad and I never had ANY sort of relationship until just a year before he died, so there isn't much to miss. But mom was my nearest and dearest "hug-buddy". My closest friend. If it hadn't been for her devotion, I'd have never gotten my education. I was too sick to work. Found out MANY years later (just recently actually) I had a serious heart defect that had made it impossible to go to school and work. She paid all my bills OTHER than school, so that I could go to university and get my education! My scholarships paid for school. (I WAS that smart, and I WAS that good a student)
DARN IT! You have made me cry! I hope you're proud of yourself! ;-) ( kidding about barking at you; not kidding about crying. ) I'm the first in my family (both sides) to get a university degree. And I owe it to my mom! It's been over 20 years, closer to 30, since she went to heaven, and YES, every Thanksgiving, every Christmas is HARD. I'm alone now. My son just took off from high school directly into the military, so he won't be here for the holidays either. (my first Christmas EVER without him, and he'd "rather be somewhere else.)" You learn to depend more and more on yourself. And I depend ever more on God. I'll be praying for you as you "survive" the holidays. At least, you hopefully will have family and friends to observe the holidays with. I won't. I'll be quite literally --- alone.
2006-12-18 21:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by John1212 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss, It makes it even harder around the holidays, I know, you might want to get involved in a program to bring cheer to less fortunate kids or something, you said this was your Mom favorite time of year, why not celebrate her life by spending some time at your local nursing home or children's hospital, it might help you to be around people who could really use a friend, it sounds like you could too, you never know the joy it could bring to someone and you might even enjoy the holidays more to.... I know it will not be easy but do it for your Mom.... you are in my prayers... Maggie
2006-12-18 21:45:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your lost sweetheart. I lost my mom in 1978. It never stops hurting but as time goes on it gets better. You never forget the memories you made together It will forever been in your heart, I feel so bad for you. She loved Christmas so celebrate it like she was here. She is watching you and must be so proud of you. Not alot of kids take care of there parents. It must have been hard for you. I wish you all the peace and happiness you deserve. I hope you do ok. God Bless you and merry christmas. As merry as it can be for you.
2006-12-18 23:20:46 · answer #4 · answered by cecilia a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your pain will some day subside. What you are experiencing is something we all have to go through, and can never prepare for! I lost my mum 2 years ago February. I still miss her and always will, I hope!
You are a beautiful person and will get through this gloriously. Your mum will live forever in your thoughts. How lucky for her that she made such an impression on you.
Merry Christmas! And don't forget to toast mum, if only in your thoughts!
2006-12-18 22:32:07 · answer #5 · answered by the_pharaoh109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. I also lost my mother close to the hoildays so I know exactly how you feel. Just know that she lived a full life and she is now in a better place. Try and remember the good times and talk to your loved ones, it can help ease so of your pain.
2006-12-18 21:38:56 · answer #6 · answered by Cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear you are having a hard time right now.... this time of year is good for that.... After I lost my grand parents, our holidays were never the same... so sad...
good luck, and think of the happy times.... talk with other family members about the fun times this year, it should help...
2006-12-18 21:29:48 · answer #7 · answered by next.... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay strong. You truly are a rarity these days. Most people will not be willing to take care of their ailing mom for 3 years. Take comfort in knowing that you did the right thing and that you did everything you could for her. Her spirit is with you, and she lives on in you. Live your life to the fullest for her.
2006-12-18 21:29:11 · answer #8 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww honey, I'm sorry for your lost and you were an amazing daughter. Have you tried support groups? Maybe you could reserve something in remembrance of her--like you said she loved Christmas, maybe make a toy memorial and support a less fortunate family with some toys or dinner in her honor
2006-12-18 21:29:08 · answer #9 · answered by aroundtheom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my condolences to you ,but since you did what you got to do ,
i bet you she will be more than happy that you can keep celebrating Christmas the way she used to do it,and do it in her honor ,remember she pass away in flesh,but she still living in your heart,and as a daughter you are the greatest!!!!
God bless you and have for sure she is right know in Heaven
with all the angels ,rejoicing cause she left a beautiful daughter
in earth,be thankful for that,and may the real joy of the Christmas
spirit be with you ,amen
2006-12-18 21:39:08 · answer #10 · answered by Byzantino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋