All those 3 boys were good.1st one was good but a bit rigid minded.2nd one was too conservative.3rd one was too short to me.So I couldn't stay with them for longer time.I don like these type of boys.But now my bf is good though his academic background is too bad to me.But even though i do like him.I wana be clear to him.He had a gf b4.He told me abt that girl.Similarly i wana be clear to him.So should it be a wise decision to tell him all about those?
2006-12-18 21:02:18 · 10 answers · asked by laila 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honesty is the best policy, but if he doesn't ask than I wouldn't volunteer the information.
2006-12-18 21:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Put the shoe on the other foot ,,,,,, If the situation were reversed would you want the person to be honest with you ? It's not the end of the world that you've had three previous boyfriends ,,,, In fact a person should have as broad a range of acquaintances as they can have in order to be able to make a better decision on who they want to have a more serious relationship with later on ,,,, You've done nothing wrong so don't be afraid to tell the truth ,,,, Tell him that you have standards and principles and a set of rules you live by and if some one doesn't measure up to your standards for what ever reason than you are ready to and or willing to move on ,,,,, So if he askes or the conversation gets around to your past then be open and honest with him ,,,, I think he'll respect you for it and conduct himself accordingly ,,,, Don't let the amount of boyfriends you've had bother you ,,, If you are smart then you'll wind up with allot of X's because of what I said earlier about a broad range of acquaintances ,,,, Good luck ,,,,
2006-12-18 21:49:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a boyfriend of any kind sounds wrong for you.
Seems you dont know what you want and all you are doing is hurting other peoples feelings.
Always be honest with other people AND yourself!
If there is something you do not like about this new boyfriend, back off and just be platonic (no sex) friends. It's easier for when you want to break up, which sounds like it's soon.
2006-12-18 21:07:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is not a pre-requisite that you bare your entire life before him.
You only tell him when he asks about it. You can voluntarily tell him about your past bf if you feel it necessary.
It won't really matter unless if your past still haunts you affecting your current relationship.
Some guys do find it very sincere for a girl to openly talk about her past signifying that she is not hiding any skeletons in her closet. Guys will respect you a lot for that. However, there are things better left unsaid.
The bottomline is that you are facing this relationship in a mature perspective and that your past is not haunting you anymore.
2006-12-18 21:12:48 · answer #4 · answered by nomamalin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he asks... tell him. If he doesn't... don't. You could be volunteering information that he doesn't really want to know. But side-tracking... didn't you know the other three boys didn't live up to your standards before you went out with them? I mean you said it yourself that you don't like those type of boys so.... why exactly were you with them to begin with?
2006-12-18 21:10:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
1st of all, why even bother to stay with a guy who is bad to you?
2ndly, why volunteer the answers to a question not asked?
If he is interested in your past, he would ask, if not why tell?
2006-12-18 21:09:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why? Sounds like you'll break up with him soon anyway because he doesn't measure up to your standards.
2006-12-18 21:05:21 · answer #7 · answered by Voodoid 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
depends on how long you gonna be with this person...
2006-12-18 21:12:17 · answer #8 · answered by anna 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes
honesty is the best policy.
understand. !!!
2006-12-18 21:04:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anurag 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if u r not comfortable to tell him...dont...
2006-12-18 21:05:13 · answer #10 · answered by El-rene 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋