Our relationship had gone all a bit routine. Me and my ex girlfriend were together 3 years, and were very very close.
She started working at a pub in the evenings a few months back. Then one day, she called me and said that we should have a break. The next week, my friend saw her with another guy. I called her and she said it was nothing, but she's now with this guy.
It was all getting a bit boring so I wasn't very bothered at first, but as soon as I found out about this other guy I went mad! I slipped in to depression and was depressed for about a month. During this month, I would call her and she'd tell me that she still loved me but it's not fair to get back with me if she's got feelings for this other guy now.
2 months later and I'm trying not to think about her anymore, but the situation keeps playing on my mind.
Any idea's how long this will take? She is friends with a group of people who are friends with my friends, so I still hear about what she's up to and vice versa.
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2006-12-18 20:53:54 · 16 answers · asked by kris d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get yourself a rebound chick and bonk her to your dick falls off! This should get your mind off the other girl.
2006-12-18 20:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to move on, you might have to consider removing her from your life. That may include telling your friends not to talk about her anymore. Don't call her, and stick with those said friends for guidance and support during this tough time. It may take a while, but hey, before you know it you'll be back on the street with another girl.
If she's going to leave you after a 3 year relationship, she wasn't good enough for you.
I am sorry to hear about what happened and my heart goes out to you because I kind of understand what you're going through. Just stay strong okay?
-Destiny
2006-12-18 21:00:25 · answer #2 · answered by *Chinisu* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly where your coming from. I was in a relationship for about two years. At first i didnt know why i got myself in the relationship in the first place as he wasnt that attractive and we didnt seem to have anything in common. Anyway as months whent on we had a great time. I really enjoyed being in his company and he made me feel wanted and special. I was having a hard time with my family and he help me get through this. I began finding him attractive and a great person. We'd both been through it abit in the 1st year of our relationship with friends deaths and also me having a miscarrage Then oneday out the blue he finished with me for no apparent reason. I felt so bad.I couldnt eat, sleep and meeting someone else felt wrong. He wouldnt even talk to me. He changed his number incase i contacted him and he even moved edventually but this was because he had a new girlfriend who he moved in with. Two year later and i was still cut up about him. He was always in my thoughs. I edventually found someone else who i did begin to care about and had two beutiful daughters too until oneday the guy who broke my heart contacted me. I hadnt a clue how he got my number or why he'd went out his way to get it after all these years and he wouldnt even talk to me and give me an explantion. I felt so weird replying to him via txt we adventually agreed to meet. On doing this i felt so anxous and very nervous but realised i didnt love him at all infact what i missed was the way he made me feel and forget about my troubled time as we all have. If id known this before i could have easily sorted it. Just remember what you got out of the relationship and what you miss and you'll soon find a replacement not necessarily by having another relationship straight away but you'll see what i mean and you'll feel so much better.
I hope this helps
If you need to talk please get incontact. Id be more than happy to help
2006-12-18 21:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by lisa_mcd1234 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're both Christians then ask her. You need to forgive her and she needs to be forgiven. If not, realize that only you can decide how you are going to react to a situation. It is ok to mourn the loss of a good friend, even if all the guys around you say you just need to get over it. Really, that's what needs to happen, but on your time-line not their's. Another thing, you can't bring "her" into every subsequent relationship. Maybe they can't make you feel like she did, but maybe they can make you feel like she couldn't. Or maybe all the other girls suck, and you just need to wait until you find a new pond to fish in?
2016-05-23 06:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
put this in your head buddy, if she tell you that kind of things still love and blahh bla, that personally she just want to sounds like a nice polite person about her past cheating relationship because basically she plant to cheat on you , but she break with you first so it won't consider cheating for general crowd and keep tap on you in case the other one doesn't work.
stand strong, hey looks at the bright side at least she not your wife right when that happen : )
but seriously don't talk to her at least six month from now and this is really important, when you hang out with your friend don't talk or ask about her, if they talk about her, excuse yourself from them , i know you'll be curious how she doing , but in the same time you have to understand , she doing just fine , you don't need to hear the detail, you care about her great , but now the less you hear about her is the best.
eventually one day you wake up or in middle of the day u saw a girl pass you by and you going to say , wow she pretty cute of she got a great smile , then you know you move on already.
okay dude
only positive thinking and don't be nosy about her just for your own good.
2006-12-18 22:35:36 · answer #5 · answered by mazdaspeedprotege 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make some new friends. get out and meet some new people. That is the best way to take your mind of it. troubles of the heart like this can take a long long time so keep being strong, be happy, concentrate on yourself and your goals for the future, If she was your one and only she will be back in your arms soon.
2006-12-18 20:56:30 · answer #6 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could just put myself in your situation, if my man left me for someone else I would just move forward and cry to myself - I wouldnt give him the pleasure of knowing I want him back - I wouldnt want him back because he then didnt love me the way I deserved to be loved!! Move on - I know its not easy - but wouldnt you want somebody who loved you back equally? Why hurt yourself? Who wants to meet a guy in a pub anyway?
2006-12-18 21:21:45 · answer #7 · answered by Immortal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its hard but time really is the best healer. try and stay out of her way and ask your friends to not tell you what shes up to as it will only make things harder.
realise that she doesn't deserve you if she didn't realise what she had.
you will feel better and get over her even if its not yet. good luck :)
2006-12-18 20:56:57 · answer #8 · answered by Empress 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this the first time? Obviously it is,
It takes as long as you let it, its in your head remember....
Yep, it sucks....but it could be worse.
"How" I hearyou cry!
well my ex became a prostitute and the last I heard she was sh@gging 2 blokesfor a fiver,
fook me I was glad she never gave me the clap.
2006-12-18 21:13:08 · answer #9 · answered by ii337 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont get soo emotional.
take up sports or something.
have a hobby too.
it`ll help to keep your mind off her.
& also get your lazy bum out of the
chair & start going out more often
& meeting new friends.
what is not yours will never be yours.
2006-12-18 21:00:07 · answer #10 · answered by lilbr0wnsuga 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋