my friend and i got in teh debate last night about that. she thinks she is doomed to hell because her spouse asked her to sleep with another guy so they coudl spice up their sex life. i told her i didn't know but woudl ask around. so my religious people is it?
2006-12-18 20:44:10 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yes, adultery is having sex with someone other than your spouse, and is grounds for divorce, Your friend might want to check what her hubby is doing, since often the one who suggests the other fool around has been doing so for quite a while and is just trying to assuage his guilt.
2006-12-18 20:48:09 · answer #1 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's disgusting and wrong on so many levels. Why would she be doomed to hell for this? It is the spouse that needs a swift kick. It is the spouse that seems to have undergone a moral lobotomy.
Either A, this spouse has no morals, or A, this spouse is not a man, or A, this spouse thinks nothing of their wife, or A, this spouse is bankrupt physically, spiritually, and emotionally... I choose A...
Your friend should run, not walk, away from the deviant.
2006-12-18 20:57:58 · answer #2 · answered by JohnC 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. A woman should never let a man talk her into a situation
that is totally against the word of God. After all, Thou Shalt Not
Commit Adultry. And intercourse with anyone other than your
spouse is adultry. He should love her and show her alot more
respect than to ask her to have sex outside of the marriage.
2006-12-18 20:53:50 · answer #3 · answered by gailpendarvis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is. It doesn't matter why you have a sexual encounter with another person when you are already married. It is still adultry. If your friend is a Christian, she needs to pray about it and ask God to forgive her for her mistake and mean it. By this, she should be repenting and intending never to do that again. That is what repenting is all about. God does forgive, but He does not want us to continue in the things that we asked Him to forgive us for. Your friend will NOT go to hell if she repents and means it. I truly feel for your friend...she has chosen a mate who has no idea what marriage is truly about. It is a sacred trust, and he has violated that trust with such a terrible expectation.
2006-12-18 20:56:31 · answer #4 · answered by Dixie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, there are several aspects to the question. One is, the TRADITIONAL view of "adultery" is that if you "cheat" on your partner (have intercourse/kiss/oral/mutual masturbation) with someone else, you have committed adultery. "Doomed" is a harsh term, since the Christian God who forbid "adultery" is also a God who FORGIVES if we ask. You / your friend are not condemned if you repent (say it won't happen again with God's help, and ask forgiveness).
Then there's the notion of "cheating". Cheating involves doing something BAD, and being dishonest (not telling). IF the partner (husband) KNOWS about the sex with someone else, if the partner ENCOURAGED the spouse to have sex with someone else, well that's not "cheating" since it was arranged ahead of time, WITH INFORMED consent.
And there IS a case in the Bible (for Christians) for "open marriage." IF opens their minds and READS the Bible without "already knowing what it says", the Bible pretty clearly states that we are to do "whatever is possible for us" to please our mate.
If it would please me for my mate to bring another man home and have sex with him in our bed while I watch them...I don't see how that is cheaing. I know about it, I have asked her to please let me watch her have intercourse with another man, or please him orally.... I will not comment on MY habits, but I believe we need to be more open-minded and not decide that what we are TOLD is wrong is wrong. I hope that helped. And by the way, I would truly not ask 100 people, "What do YOU think is okay for ME?" If you ask 80 CONTROL FREAKS to take over your life, they will! Be an adult, make some of these decisions for yourself, based on what YOU think is right and wrong. I GUARANTEE you that if you ask the next person you see, "What color of underwear should I wear today?" someone will be HAPPY to tell you!
2006-12-18 20:54:02 · answer #5 · answered by John1212 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is adultery! Your friend needs to read the Bible again. Jesus said that if you just look at a woman with lust, you have already committed adultery in your heart. This "spicing up the sex life" thing is also lusting the flesh which is also sin. She should not have done it.
2006-12-18 20:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by Dakota Lynn Takes Gun 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not religious, but yes, it would be considered adultery. It would also be considered a signal the marriage is in bad trouble. If the husband thinks their sex life needs "spicing up," he's going about it in a tragically wrong way. They need counseling -- FAST.
2006-12-18 20:49:50 · answer #7 · answered by weary0918 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is. An adultery is when you have sexual encounter outside your marriage. There's no exception to this rule. Being doomed to hell is a bit extreme because we still have the grace of God. That only apply to mistake, not to willful sin.
2006-12-18 20:56:48 · answer #8 · answered by junior's800 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes if she does sleep with another person while she is married it is called adultery
Meaning:
Adultery, or infidelity, is generally defined as consensual sexual intercourse by a married person with someone other than his or her lawful spouse. In many jurisdictions, an unmarried person who is sexually involved with a married person is also considered an adulterer. Common synonyms for adultery are unfaithfulness or, in colloquial speech, cheating. It was also known in earlier times by the legalistic term "criminal conversation" (another term, "alienation of affection", is used when one spouse deserts the other for a third person). The term is not related to adult (Latin a-dolescere, to grow up, mature), but to Latin ad-ulterare (to corrupt).
2006-12-18 20:50:03 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes
2006-12-18 20:51:40 · answer #10 · answered by waltinaw74 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋