i had a 11 year old pomerian dog who died but 4 years of passed i am not able to come out of depression?

Question

i tried my level best to save my dog took him to the vet and everything but i couldnt save her. Now i feel very depressed and guilty. Sometimes i feel that it was my fault that she died . that i forcibly made her drink water by a syringe or i made her sleep in the balcony etc etc . How will i come out of it . i know i am not guilty but......... what should i do

Answer 1

I am so sorry. I love my little dog with all my heart (she is 17) and I completely understand. Like you, I feel so bad when I have to do things that are meant to try to help her but that I know she does not understand. I carry that guilt too, even thought I know my intentions were only out of love for her. You must get a sense of perspective about this. If you keep the feelings of guilt alive you will not be honoring her memory because you will be erasing all of the countless happy memories you have. She is now in a safe and happy place surrounded by many other loving people and animals. She is at peace and wants you to be too. Her love for you was stronger than your guilt. Let her love reach out to you and heal you. It is her last gift to you. Don't ignore it. Receive her forgiveness and let her love replace your own sorrow.

Answer 2

Well 11 years is quite a bit of time for a dog to live anyways, if you want to beat that you have to get a tree or a turtle! Most likely your dog was your best friend, and just like having a child, to be honest that thing I've seen that works the most is get another dog...not necesarily another pom, because I think you will find yourself comparing your new pom to your old pup, and thats not fair for either of you. I would get a different breed and see if it helps, everything happens for a reason, everyone around you will eventually die, plants die, etc..that is the only definite thing about life, is death. Thats somethin you should never forget, hakuna matata, there's nothing you can do about it, so why worry! I was devastated when I lost my first pet, took me about 2 years to get over it, and it was just a little rabbit! Good luck!

Answer 3

Getting over a beloved pet is no easy task. I had to put my 15 year old dog down because she was so ill she could barely move. The guilt I felt was enormous, I beat myself up over the fact that I 'killed my best friend' even though it was for humane reasons. Time will heal, but I think there comes a time where you may have to make a conscious decision to let go. I saw on a TV show once where this woman had a miscarriage, and somebody gave her a red ballon (the ballon represented her baby) and took her to an open field and told her let the balloon go. Ridiculous as it sounds, it actually made good sense. I hope this helps

Answer 4

I also had to have my dog put to sleep 4 years ago and it is very hard to forget,,, sometimes our pets become our life,,I still think of my dog Izzy almost every day and miss him,, You have got to quit feeling guilty. if you took her to the vet and did everything to help her why the guilt?? its not like you killed her. when you forced fed him water you were helping her. did you get another dog since she passed? If not maybe it would be a good idea to get one, your last dog was 11 years old. that's a long time for that breed of dog to live so you did do something right, good luck and God Bless,,, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!! you did everything you could

Answer 5

I also had a dog that I had to put down. We had him for 10 yrs., and he developed cancer in his stomach. Talk about a guilt trip. The doc said he had probably had the cancer in there for at least 5 yrs., but he never acted like he was in pain. The Vet said the type of dog he was, he wouldn't show pain, but he was in pain, lots of pain. He was a Sealyham Terrier, and we had just gotten his health back to being good. Then one night he wouldn't stay in the house an I kept going out and getting him and bringing him in the house. He was puking up every thing he drank, water! The next morning I took him to the vet, and he had blood coming out of his penis, and black tarry stools coming out of his rectum, so I already knew he probably had cancer. The vet couldn't get a cathater in him to find out what was causing a blockage in his stomach.
Any way, I too still at times miss my dog. It has been four years since we put him down. At times I still grieve for him. He came in our lives at a time when I needed something else to love besides my husband. I am not a dog lover, but he stole my heart.
My advice, is seriously think about getting another pet. I said I never would if something happened to my Bosco, but my daughter got me a beautiful Ragdoll cat. They are part siamese and any long haired tabby cat. Any way, I have two, they are litter mates. They haven't replaced my Bosco, and I miss him every day, but I am no longer depressed because he is gone. You have to let it go, or it will get you down so far you won't be able to come back. YOU need to get HELP! There is more going on with you then just normal depression over the loss of an animal.

Answer 6

Don't beat yourself up over it. You could have easily backed up and ran over your dog and killed it. Some have done this. It is a terrible thing to have to live with. I'm sure you are not even guilty of doing anything wrong. Your baby probably would have died no matter what. You took her to the vet. Apparently there was nothing that could be done. Have you got yourself another dog?

My daughters childhood dog died after 17 years and she said she never wanted another dog. Didn't seem right. She was determined never to love another dog. Well, I ended up getting one for me and finally she fell in love with her and now she has two girls. Life is for the living.

Get yourself another friend. Your dog who died would want you to have someone to love. She would want you to be happy and taken care of. Animals only know love.

Answer 7

aww what a sad story... you were only acting out of love in forcing her to drink water, as for sleeping in the balcony... it wasnt too cold was it? brrrr but you obviously love your dog, and that is all that matters. dogs can sense when their owners love them, the same way people can feel love. Im sure she loved you the same for loving her that way and was happy to be yours those 11 years (or however long you had her). If you still look back and feel depressed about her now, you must love her extremely much to miss her that much still, and any dog would give anything for that kind of love from their owners, I think she is a very lucky dog who lived a long happy life

Answer 8

I think this is a very legit question. I am a Christian, I totally believe in prayer and I can testify to my own miracles that God has blessed me and my family with. I seen this story on top news just yesterday and I seen the picture of the 11 year old girl and my heart just breaks for her. I will tell you that I know for a fact Jesus is a miracle doer. I do not know these parents so I really can't comprehend where they were coming from, I do not understand where they were coming from. I am saying that seriously, not sarcastic. I have three sons and I have taken them to the Dr many times over the years when I felt it necessary. I do not believe at all that that would make me any less a believer in miracles from God. I believe that Dr's that God has blessed with the talent to learn to save lives,are miracles !! I believe that God has instilled in each and everyone of us,that we have free will and we have choices to make.God has blessed evryone with certain talents and gifts. I beleive we are supposed to utilize these to make our world a better place. I beleive people can miss the whole picture with "religion". Its not about "religion". It is about your own personal relationship with Jesus Christ. HE is the ONE that can save people and perform miracles. Not any one person or any religous ceremony. If these parents chose not to take their daughter to a Dr because they believed that because of "THEIR" prayers or their efforts she would be spared, then they were very sadly and tragically mistaking. It is not from anything in this world that we do, that will bring a miracle. It is by the GRACE OF GOD. I will not tell you that I understand why this happened to this little girl. I know as a parent, when my children would come to me and ask me certain questions, I knew there was no way,at the age they were at the time ,they would understand the answer. So I would tell them, this is just the way it is, some day you will understand. I think sometimes that the answer we get from God, although,we do not like that answer as my children didnt either ! God knows there are things we just cannot understand right now. That is where faith comes in. You will have faith in God or you wont .That is your "free will" to choose ! If the parents ,in their hearts, chose to not take their child to the Dr because they honestly beleived that God was going to save her, I really do not know what should happen to them legally,if anything. Thank God Im not a judge. If they were doing this to some how make a statement that if "they" do this praying and because of what "they" can do, God would then give them a miracle, that would be where they mad a very fatal mistake.

Answer 9

Besides search out professional counseling - have you thought of getting yourself another pomerian dog? It might just be what you are depressed about is not losing the dog - its about losing the companionship a dog offered you - and the only way to replace such a relationship is with another dog.

Good Luck!!!

Answer 10

Hello: I am so sorry for you over the loss of your beloved pet. I know how much that hurts. I'm not in your shoes but I have lost a lot of pets in my life and it really hurts. Please try to remember something. Whenever you feel sad/ guilty or whatever it is that comes up for you just remember how much your precious counted on you. You didn't let him down. It was his time to leave this world but not leave you. Take comfort in knowing that you did all that you could. Carry with you a token something of comfort to you. Maybe a picture or something like that. It isn't your faught. Your baby is probably looking down upon you and giving a doggie smile because he know's he was truly loved and still is.
Please feel free to email me if you need to talk. I don't know you but I would be glad to listen.