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What do you do when your grown children gets angry at you cause you will not let them have their way in your house. They are in the late 20 and late 30. They do not want to talk to me anymore cause they say I am a mean mother. I never done them any harm but to love them. I have allowed them room to grow with their families but no reason to neglect their mother. Pleaseadvise.

2006-12-18 20:18:37 · 6 answers · asked by JoJoBa 6 in Family & Relationships Family

6 answers

I'm one of those grown children, and I hope you're not my mom. :-) I'm getting better with my relationship with my mom, but it is taking a great deal of time and energy. It has not been easy for me or for her, I'm sure.

As far as not doing them any harm and loving them, sometimes, "too much love" can be a bad thing. As grown up children, we don't really remain "children". We become something much more than that. It is time for us to make our own way in life. You need to be prepared to be willing to let your children go their own way.

That being said, its still true, and I agree with others who have said this already, that its "your house, your rules". If you don't like how they are acting in your house, then don't invite them back, or don't welcome them in the first place. If they have a problem with that, tell them "tough" or some such. At this point in your life, you need to do whats good for you and hope that they are responsible enough to do whats good for them independant of you.

I wish you the best of luck.

2006-12-18 20:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by G A 5 · 0 1

Ever heard of tough love, well this is it and let them know that you are still their mom and no matter what you will always be there for them, but don't let them walk all over you and if they are in your house and married and all, they sould move out and find places of their own as the Word of God says you leave your family and cleave to your spouse LOL!!!

2006-12-19 04:22:08 · answer #2 · answered by tracey s 3 · 0 0

Ask them if they like people who come to there house that dont respect your your rules cause it works both ways

2006-12-19 06:07:16 · answer #3 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0 0

oh..how bad your children are...
they don't have the right to do that to you...you are their mother and its because of you why they are in their feet right now..
i think your children's losing their respect for you...
and im sad you cant do nothing about it..cause their feelings not in their hands..and they are already mature enough to know what is right from wrong.....
i know how sad it is..
if you want..you could talk to them and "apologize"
if its really your fault..

2006-12-19 04:43:24 · answer #4 · answered by yucanzee 2 · 0 0

Respect your house rules or get out.

2006-12-19 04:20:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It's your house and they don't sound very mature for their age.

That being said, my guess is that there is much more to this story than you're telling us.

2006-12-19 05:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by Voodoid 7 · 0 0

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