I've ben confused on how to feel lately so I need your guys advice!
Okay so on Wednesday I have to go to Calorado to celebrate Christmas with my Republican cousins, aunt, and uncle. I have a problem with almost every person in the family I will be with. THe cousins are obnoxious, spoiled, thick-headed, and just plain UGH. The uncle is a sexist, racist, and homophobic jerk. (If he says the things he says here in the Bay Area he would be in trouble; They live in a VERY white part of Texas.)
Well, not only am I spending Christmas unwillingly, but I know Christmas Day they will have more presents and make fun of my sister and me. They are extremley rich. We live in the Bay Area so it costs more. I don't want them talking behind my back say "They got so little presents" or just not knowing how happy I am with my life and how this trip will make me miserable. I just wish you knew how bad they were- Thanks!
IN ADVANCE- Sorry for any typos its late here!
2006-12-18 19:47:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you lost me...... so what's your question?
2006-12-18 19:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just to let you know...Republicans and VERY white people who live in Texas, should not be stereotyped like this. I find it ironic that you would call your uncle sexist, racist, etc that he incorrectly labels people in an offensive manner...yet, you are prone to labeling yourself.
Other than that--I can only assume that you are going because you are under the care of your parent(s)? That you have to drive your parent(s)? That they are the only relatives you have? If the later is the case, and you are not a minor or don't have the responsibility to your parent(s)...I would personally just sent them a gift or card, especially if you feel this way. They don't need you bringing in negative vibes for the holidays.
I hope you do know them like you say you do, since it would be awful to think that you have labeled them and are prone to anchoring bias (a tendency to fixate on initial information as a starting point) or any other form of. They very well might be really nice people, for all I or you know. You don't see them but once a year, right? They might actually believe that you are a freeloading lazy whiner (not that you are...just as an example). They might think very well of you and here you are bad mouthing them!...fixated on the gifts part of the get-together. Its not all about the gifts, as I'm sure you know, but making that a point of contention is just paranoid and selfish.
2006-12-18 20:07:38 · answer #2 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can, don't go. Why put yourself through so much misery? If you don't have a choice, then take an MP3 player or discman or gameboy to keep you occupied. Or take some type of board game to keep everybody busy so that they can't talk about things that you really don't want to hear or discuss.
Good luck! Merry Christmas!
2006-12-18 20:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by laylamami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would just pour myself a few drinks to get through that...but seriously..as silly as this sounds... try to meditate before you go out there... maybe yoga or something... hold a better fire inside yourself so that it doesn't affect you like this. Just keep telling yourself that your self worth isn't reliant on them. Stay in good spirits for your own spirits..when you get home reward yourself..go to a spa or something yummie...especially in the bay area (email me if you want a good place that I love!) Try to escape while you're there for a little bit too..maybe site see or something cool just to get your head clear for a few hours.
Namaste!
2006-12-18 20:11:00 · answer #4 · answered by aroundtheom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't go. Call in sick or something; make up an excuse. Or, if you don't feel comfortable lying, tell the truth. Tell them that you'd prefer they keep their comments and opinions to themselves while you're there.
2006-12-18 19:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by supensa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey just dont !!! If u r obliged to go then if they say sumfin that u dint like just reply back to them ... B courageous man ... Show them that no 1 is perfect man ....
2006-12-18 20:01:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya no u should tell them straight up how u feel about each one and sho them u aint kiddin and they should respect you for who u and ur family r and if they have a problem wit it they can either keep it to themselves or say it to ur face personally
2006-12-18 20:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by Chenille 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, in my thought, if i were you, as long as i happy with my life, i wouldn't care what might my uncle think about me eventhough they r sooooo bad... i will very grateful to every present i've got
2006-12-18 19:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain man.
2006-12-18 21:45:35 · answer #9 · answered by Voodoid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋