Alright. Everybody seems to think the "scene" is important. Short of it: my gf has some unresolved personal issues (don't we all, somewhere) but after talking w/ her about some oddities I have noticed about our relationship and hearing her talk (sometimes and just absolutely freeze at others) it occured to me that they are big but they are not her fault. Can't expand any more b/c I don't know much more than that. After talking with her about it, it occurs to me she recognizes she has a problem but seems to think she doesn't need to get help for it (professional). The tricky part is I know she wants to change but is convinced she is strong enough to do it by herself. So noble to want to and to try and yet so foolish. What would you say? Anything even? Accept it as part of her, the whole her? Maybe even just leave w/out a word? Very delicate situation. Unfortunately, it may need broken before it can REALLY get fixed. Any thoughts?
2006-12-18 19:21:22 · 4 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want to stick by her, be with her, but this can't go on forever. I am starting to think the only way she will EVER decide she needs to change is for her to completely push someone away for good that she really cares about (enter me potentially) and it scares the hell out of me.
2006-12-18 19:22:47 · update #1
The "scene" was refernce to controlled substances (can't say D's or my Q gets deleted) and was used only as an allegory. The two situations have many of the same underlying bases and resolutions. Stop asking about the scene please. I said it was an analouge. That is what I meant to say.
2006-12-18 19:32:28 · update #2
I didn't see the first part of this scenerio but wow, it seems you are really hard pressed to know what to do. Expecting someone to "change" is never good in a relationship. When things are bad during courtship they only get worse when married. You both really need counseling. If she won't go, maybe you should to help sort out what is best for you and thus for the relationship. The one thing on your list is definately a NO. "leave w/out a word". If her problem is that big you could really send the wrong message to her and make it worse. Communication is the only answer...either with you or someone else. I am wondering how strong she feels about you if she can't trust you by telling you the whole story. Good luck to both of you.
2006-12-18 19:31:37 · answer #1 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because of the fact in case you do no longer you get the incorrect answer (is the glaring answer). Now the severity of having the incorrect answer relies upon on what you're doing. Say you're development a bridge or you paintings at NASA calculating orbital manuevers for the area holiday...getting the incorrect solutions for no longer obeying order of operations could be convey approximately deadly consequences! user-friendly occasion: 4 + 8/4 = 4 + 2 = 6, yet once you do no longer obey order of operations, you are able to think of the respond is 4 + 8/4 = 12/4 = 3 (yet it quite is incorrect!)
2016-10-05 12:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are having aproblem coping and she is refusing help then it leaves no authority but to exit her life.
2006-12-18 19:26:37 · answer #3 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Still don't know what you mean by "scene". Please elaborate more
2006-12-18 19:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by glastnot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋