An analouge of my situation: say I knew my gf was into the "scene" but it had only come to my attention how into it she really was recently and had become a cause for concern. After talking with her about it, it occurs to me she recognizes she has a problem but isn't willing to get help for it. The tricky part is she wants to change but is convinced she is strong enough to do it by herself. So noble to want to and to try and yet so foolish. What would you say? Anything even? Accept it as part of her, the whole her? Maybe even just leave w/out a word? Very delicate situation. Unfortunately, it may need broken before it can REALLY get fixed. Any thoughts?
2006-12-18 18:51:08 · 8 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
PURELY hypothetical; let's say I thought she needed to go into rehab
2006-12-18 18:56:19 · update #1
She needs to realize for herself she has a problem...Hypothetically you saying she needs rehab will go in one ear and out the other. One needs to hit rock bottom before they realize there is a problem, she needs to say, she needs help. She will fall...either be there to catch her or leave now. She will not stop because you tell her to, it will make her want it more...this she controls, she will not release control to you or anyone. You said your peace, now you decided if you want to weather the storm, or retreat to safe ground....
2006-12-18 19:14:33 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say but if she is on a destructive path and not willing to get professional help now then she is going to need to crash and hit rock bottom before she can pick herself up and there is not much you can do to help her until she has helped herself. honestly, i would not want to stick around and watch her spiral downward. i would talk with her, give her one chance to get professional help, if she didnt i would leave and say call me when you are 100% clean and well talk. that would be it. this is a personal test for her and i really discourage you from interfering in any part of the process. i know its hard to read its like the saying, if you love her, let her go.
2006-12-18 19:03:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 12:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to clarify the "scene" Drug scene, party scene?
I think if she gets desperate enough she will seek help and find it. You can't change her...she has to change herself. Either stand beside her and accept everything or let her go...but at least communicate your feelings about leaving her. She may spiral down...and that would be even worse for her...
2006-12-18 18:58:16 · answer #4 · answered by e_piphany214 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
knowing what "scene" you are referring to would make a difference. if it's the drug scene, then i think you have to suggest rehab. if she's against it then i think you have to tell her that you can't be around her until she get better. evem if she wants to do it on her own, you need to tell her that you can't be with her until she is clean (however, she gets clean).
2006-12-18 19:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by ca belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mean that she likes a bit of both, can you live with that?
If not, you'll have to finish the relationship.
2006-12-18 18:56:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does 'the scene' mean?
2006-12-18 18:54:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What "scene" are you talking about ?
2006-12-18 18:54:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋