I am 24 years old and 31 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend & I broke up in October. We agreed that we both needed to work some things out seperately before the baby gets here. In that time, I have found a job, a car, and started substance abuse meetings (I have a drug problem but have been clean for 6 mos now). I feel like my life is finally coming together. Lately, he has been talking alot about wanting to get back together ... that he misses me, still loves me, wants to be with me when the baby gets here. However, his actions say differently. He has been "promising" to get together with me for the last 3 weeks, but hasn't come through. I can barely get him on the phone, he will tell me to call back but then not answer. I saw him more before he started telling me he wanted me back! He says he doesn't understand why this upsets me. I try not to let it bother me but I can't help it. Any advice on what I should do? BTW he has 2 other kids, a son who is 15 and a daughter who is 3.
2006-12-18 18:49:35 · 12 answers · asked by justsumchickie1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
do not wait for him .plan your days around the coming joy and hard work of your baby do not hang on to his promises putting yourself on hold, he may come back and if you feel like taking him then do as you wish,but move on with your future and do not let him keep you hanging as a" just in case i don't find some other girl back-up plan" ....you and your baby deserve the best so look out for yourselves and don't look back he will return or he won't,and of course...you may find someone else that will be a wonderful companion and parent to your child ....don't be left waiting in the wings . and stay clean!!!!! old habits die hard be an inspiration to those of us who are struggling with substance abuse issues....you may save a life !
2006-12-19 01:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by angelotipton 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since you have been working so hard to get your life together (good for you, by the way!), I would not get back together with him. There is a big chance that he will pull you back into that old lifestyle. Don't take any chances. If you want a man, there are tons of great guys out there who are capable of loving your child as their own. Find one of them and don't give this guy a second thought. It is what is best for you and definitely best for the baby.
2006-12-18 18:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by bashnick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 11:38:24 · answer #3 · answered by johannah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion to you is simple. Make a life for you and your child without him in it. It sounds like you have done better without him than you did with him. Being a single parent can be frightening (I know, I did it) but it will make you a stronger person in the long run. You will find someone that will respect that strength and security you will develop. Then you can enter into a healthy relationship that is beneficial for both you and your child.
Good luck! Everything you are doing says that you are on the right track.
2006-12-18 19:31:01 · answer #4 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you got your life together without him. Was he involved in your previous problems? How does he treat his other kids? Look at these things and then decide, but with all the good new things going on in your life, why not go all the way and find a guy you don't have to wonder about.
2006-12-18 18:56:50 · answer #5 · answered by Crash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he want to get back together with you because you have worked hard to improve your life for you and your child but sounds like his busy schedule says other wise when hes got nothing planned your on his mind but his mind seems very busy on other activities or more important issues friends or girl Friends, if he loves and misses you as much as he says he does then nothing should come in his way of spending that needed quality time with you. seems how you have worked so hard on your new life i would leave him in the old life and keep moving in the positive way you are.
2006-12-18 19:07:01 · answer #6 · answered by masterdisaster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have your act together, and it was hard work, and good on you. But what are you doing waiting around for this man to make up his mind, you are on an excellent path, if he wants to join you he can get it together and follow or not, I would not be surprised if he is still on the side of the road this time next year. , best make your own plans and best of luck with your new little family,
2006-12-18 19:14:21 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope this won't be too blunt but you indeed have a dilemma, you may have to cut your loses. If he is avoiding you, there is not a lot you can do about it--Hopefully, he will take his responsibility to care for the child.
I do not know what the law is in your state as far as helping you with the baby, but you need to find out.
2006-12-18 19:07:15 · answer #8 · answered by THA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you don't want to hear this but get rid of him...ok .....it will be better for you in the long run and it is not just you that you have to think about you have the little one that should be here in a few weeks...i want to tell you that i don't know you but i am proud of you for being clean for 6 months...good job and stay strong not just with being sober but keeping your life in order....he have a problem (drug or something) if he does that should be rule number one before you even consider him being around the baby ...tell him he needs to get clean...once again stay strong...and i am proud of you ...just thought you should hear it again
2006-12-18 18:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by Travis S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but it sounds like he wants to be around on his own time and conditions. stay strong, congradulations on cleaning up. you are a good momma. don't let him bring you down. get child support. good luck sweetie.
2006-12-18 18:52:51 · answer #10 · answered by Pussycat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋