My girlfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship and see eachother almost every weekend..we have sex about every other weekend..but every time we do it, it seems like she's trying something new..I've seen videos and found other ways to find new positions, but she's not like that..she doesn't watch porn, doesn't read sex magazines, etc..IDK how she's doing these new things..is she practicing with another guy during the week when I'm gone?? This has been happening the last few months, and we've been together for 2 years..she's got this guy at school that she's really "close" to..could they be hooking up during the week when I'm not around?? I feel helpless because I have no way of knowing what all she's doing during the week..
2006-12-18 18:40:40 · 13 answers · asked by Life10 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah like the person above said.....SO many women read and use tips from cosmo...she most likely got it from there
2006-12-18 18:43:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sweetie07 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
From personal experience it is very possible she is simply gettign better by being with you more often. My girlfriend and I had a few short periods apart and whenever we got back together it always seemed better sex with her. I had the exact same worry that you are having adn I suddenly realised that it was a couple of things:
1. We kept getting closer and our feeligns stronger, so everyhting felt better.
2. The more times together, the more comfortable my gf was with me. Being more and more comfortable made her enjoy it more, which in turn made the sexbetter for me too.
3.She would listen and pay attention to my reactions when doing things with/to me (so when she noticed i really liked somethign she remembered and would do more of that, etc.).
Is there a chance she is cheating?yes. But unless she has given you a reason more concrete than simply becasue the sex together is better, don't jump to any conclusions.
Just enjoy the fact it is gettign better everytime. I still am!
2006-12-18 18:52:32 · answer #2 · answered by Canucklehead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep your mouth shut... ride the ride for as long as you can... if she wan'ts you around she will keep you... if she doesn't she will hand you a stupid letter that pours out her deepest emotions... Yuck.... and there isn't much you can do about it...
so... you love her or not... she will do what she wants.. and if she is getting better... well... good for her and enjoy...
and your right.. you are helpless as it wouldn't matter if you were right there with her, she is an independant girl... able to make her own mind up.
marriage.. don't even go there.. you two arn't ready... some day maybe... and maybe your mind is working up more then it isn't.. or that is exactly what is going on... not much can be done except to enjoy the ride and the sex.... or ask her about it, but then that will make her make a choice and she won't give up that kind of life style... as she has proven that all ready... so.. as the first line said,
keep your mouth quiet... enjoy the sex and ride it till the coaster comes too a stop...
2006-12-18 18:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough question. I'm pretty sure she talks with her gf's, so is probably picking things up from them, and its possible she's also gaining confidence in her sexuality and expressing it more with experimentation.
One of my gf in college found a copy of the Joy of Sex in my apartment (I never really got around to reading it...), and suddenly she was suggesting all sorts of stuff that I'd heard of, and maybe considered... things got pretty wild from then on...
On the other hand, if the change coincides with her getting close to her guy friend at school... then the two of them may be discussing sex, and sexual antics. They might even be practicing together.
Sex only twice a month is pretty unsatisfying, so I could see a justification in her seeking satisfaction elsewhere - but obviously she loves you other wise she'd simply dump you. So any physical interaction with her guy friend is obviously in the ftf (friends that f**k) or fwb (friends with benefits) category.
Quite frankly, the next time you see her, talk to her about your concerns and feelings. Make clear you love her, and that you're confused about what's been happening recently...
And you have to trust her answers, or dump her... trust is essential in a loving relationship... without it, you might as well move on.
Just my .01
-dh
2006-12-18 18:53:55 · answer #4 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 19:34:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddy, instead of questioning where or who, you should be shouting Halleleuya from the rooftops. Get stuck in matey, and have fun, because these things come and go really fast at your age, so hang on, it's going to be a bumpy ride. And don't forget to use protection OK?
2006-12-18 18:46:34 · answer #6 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's trying to compete with your darn porn videos to please you! If youre so sure she doesnt watch porn or read sex magazines....how come youre convinced she must be cheating on you...have you real proof of any? Sheesh, complain if we do complain if we dont try new stuff!!
2006-12-18 18:46:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You'd be surprised what us girls get up to when our guys aren't around. Just be grateful for the good sex and stop being paranoid. I'm sure she just wants to please you and would be very upset if she thought you felt this way. HTH : )
2006-12-18 23:10:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
uh oh. seems like it. sorry 4 u dude. :( i found out the same after 4 years.
2006-12-18 18:44:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is just using her imagination and getting less shy...
2006-12-18 18:42:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋