I am 31 and pregnant with my second child (not married). My family is die hard Christians, who are course right, because God is with them. So this x-mas while they sit there all hurt because I am so disrespectful (they don't take boundry setting very well) and they tell me what is best for my daughter and how I will regret my life when i see the light. When they wonder how I could be such a hurtful person to them... What should my stragedy be? My plan of action???
There is a strong chance they won't say anything, and will just try to 'love me to God'. But I am pregnant and proud of my belly with my child in it. I am proud of my already born daughter that they accept because it is too late.
They may not say anything, but I will feel it. I always do feel the vibes. But if they do lay a guilt trip or try to manipulate my feelings, what should my game plan be?
2006-12-18 18:10:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
just let them 'be right'. Nothing stops an arugment then letting them be right. Then do your own thing. They will be confused if you say they are right and do something opposite.. and if they question you 'why', just say because. No arguement. And it keeps you seperate from them, because you are not fighting or 'convincing them'. Sounds like they can't take bounderies... so sidestep the fight and if you need to .... just get up and leave
2006-12-19 03:12:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you set yourself up for the guilt all on your own. If you already know how they're going to act, all you can do is choose your own actions.
Since you already have one lovely child and another on the way, just smile and let them know that you and God have a serious conversation slated for the future and at that time He will let you know how He feels about your choices. ;) And that until that time comes, how about we enjoy each other's company in the present.
2006-12-18 18:15:15 · answer #2 · answered by Lucy_Fur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one. In my opinion, if I were in your position, the first vibe I would sense, I would be true to my feelings. You have to stand up for yourself. I bet they arent the perfect specimen of humanity, I am sure they have faults. They havent a right to place you with any guilt whatsoever.... give them examples on how they may not be 100% pure... I wish you all the best and be the victor!
2006-12-18 18:18:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they want to be rude and tell you that you are disrespectful, then maybe its time for you to actually BE disrespectful so they can learn the difference between when you are only setting boundaries, and when you are being 'disrespectful'.
Just stand up for yourself and strongly assert yourself. They should not have any power over you at the age of 31.
take care!
2006-12-18 19:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know, u should be grateful that u have a family and u have a place where u can crowl at least at christmass. i don't have this kinda place and nobody supported me. now i have a very good husband, but when i had a bad husband and when i was single after divorsing him i didn't have anywhere to go. was at home all christmass with my children, stores and gyms closed, feeling miserable. so be grateful that u have a family and u have a place to go. u don't need a game plan with your parents, save it for men
2006-12-18 18:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind them that God has blessed you with two beautiful children, and continue to remind the, everyday, of the blessing growing inside of you.
They'll come around.
Good Luck and Congratulations!!
Merry Christmas hun!
2006-12-18 18:37:11 · answer #6 · answered by rubberducky_pink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby and that i end conversing to his family individuals. They abused us one too many situations. Now, we pay attention from people how they cry and moan that we took our newborn faraway from them. They have been ABUSIVE. And yet, i think to blame on a daily basis! i won't be able to think of of one single element i could desire to have performed extra powerful, or one way i could desire to have been kinder. They harm us desperately. So why the piddidilidty do I nonetheless sense ill approximately them? UGH@!!!
2016-10-05 12:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be all in your head. They will love the children. Don't have a game plan.
2006-12-18 18:14:52 · answer #8 · answered by BILL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Point out their hypocrisy. Did God not place that child in your womb....only you control how you feel, not them. So put your Godly shield up and throw it all right back at them. If they judge you.....its a good opening to bringing up Mary Magdelene right?
2006-12-18 18:15:04 · answer #9 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your answer could be YOU ARE RIGHT for everything they say to you. they can not argue the point if you agree with them...also remind them that GOD loves and forgives us....
2006-12-18 18:16:27 · answer #10 · answered by walterknowsall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋