Why Do (Some) Guys Do This?

Question

Why do some guys say one thing but do another? For instance, a guy I've been talking to says he really likes me and wants a relationship. Then he says he'll call or email the next day or whatever and then nada. No explanation as to why he didn't call or anything. I don't bring up the fact that he doesn't follow up on what he says because I don't want to nag & bit*h about it since we're not officially together and in that getting to know you stage. I also don't call or email him if he doesn't to see why he flaked. Is this a guy's way of seeing how far they can push someone that they claim to like or what? If this is a game, am I doing the right thing by acting like it doesn't bother me or should I call him on his bullsh*t? SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY PLEASE!

Thanks to everyone that answered seriously. Just to clarify, me and this dude haven't slept together. Like I said, it's the getting to know you stage. I suppose it could've slipped his mind but at the same time, actions speak louder than words. Thank you all and I will continue my non nagging & bitc*ing habit!

Answer 1

This guy just unanimously won the sissy of the year award in my book.He needs to style up and see the great gift that he is in fact missing in you.He should approach you and ask you.He may be the slow kind and the pain in the a** but if you want him go for him.Take control if he is too chicken to be the one whose brave.

On the other hand you can decide to leave this sorry excuse of a man and seek a more fulfilling relationship that you hadn't seen could work before.Take caution however not to gt your heart broken by this wrong representation of the male community.

all the best my dear!!

Answer 2

I want to commend you for the way you are!! I am sooo happy that you have learned the skill to NOT be a NAG because that is a turn off number 1 so you havn't went there yet and thats good

Now guys like to say or feel like they are "the man" he got your number..he feels good about that...He lies to you so he wont hurt your feelings or he just says im going to call you or email you so he can get you off the phone. If he truly wanted you he would get at you and he would not play those childish games. Most men go for what they want and thats that. I hate to break it to you but you need to move on and do not contact him at all. If he wants to talk to you he will contact you and then you can respond but thats all you need to do is respond or not. Dont try to start anything with him. He plays too much

Answer 3

Dear I will suggest first u sit down and jot down what type of relationship u are seeking from this guy.(long term,short term,marraige,plutonic,physical etc)after understanding ur need chalk out what all u can do to sustain this relationship.(like what all u can tolerate his limitations ,what are ur negatives)After that u have a heart to heart talk with this guy.take him into confidence and explain ur feeling towards him.word of caution do not lie or stoop low to impress him.ask him what is troubling him and mind u be prepared to hear harsh facts about you and the relationship .There may be plenty of reason why he is not commiting to u.maybe the guy is not very much confident about having a relationship with u.or maybe he has not seen that kind of vibrations coming from ur side.maybe he is not financially sound,maybe he would have been ditched earlier by someone and he has not overcome from that so he wants to tread cautiously.maybe he is not ready to take on the responsibility.maybe he is having a fear of being rejected.
when u sit and talk with him assuring him that u r genuinely interested in having a healthy and life long relationship with him he may open out.u have to iron out the differences and forget and forgive cos no body is perfect.There is nothing which can not be sorted out by talking and u are mature enough to understand and react accordingly. I wish u all success in handling the situation.do reach me with ur success at [e-mail].t

Answer 4

Yes this is a game. He's interested only when yous are face to face. I think guys do this for many reasons. 1. They want to be chased 2. They are talking to way too many girls and just want to see which one is more interested or they just don't care 3. Or they do this to see what type of girl you are. If the type to call them 8-10 times a day. Play the same game. As much as it pisses you off that he does it, play back. I will seriously piss him off too. Especially when you seem too busy for him.

Answer 5

Honestly some guys like to see how many times they can be with someone before that whole "connection" is made. They want to get the most out of one girl without being "together" before moving on to the next one

Answer 6

He is not ready to spend the time with you that you would be willing to spend with him.

Stay cool. Don't stop seeing other people.

Guys like to keep some thing (You) on a string.

They keep looking for some thing better but you are on the string in case he can't find some thing better.

You can't spend you time waiting for him. If he shows up be friendly & if he ask to some thing & its ok with you then do it.

You both have to want to be together as much as each other.

Answer 7

I think he's playing games with you. Look, if his words say he's serious, his actions should follow. It doesn't seem like he's unsure or confused; more than anything he's being discourteous to you. I'd call him on it.

And THANK YOU for saying "some"! Finally!

Answer 8

That's just what some guys do, if he was really interested you wouldn't of been here asking that question. The part about you not nagging or bitching is good- keep that up your entire life.

Answer 9

the reason some folks do it is beacuse it was olny a time being thing like it was cool while it lasted but i dont care eneymore and woman do it to its happend to me a bunch of times so dont feel bad just find a nother

Answer 10

His idea of a "relationship" is getting in your pants. Try ignoring him and see what happens. Go out with someone else and I bet he comes around.